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Question 2820
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Title: I feel frustrated with life
Text: Obvious throwaway but hey,
My life is one big mess. I’m in my early twenties and have had a rough youth. Always being bullied made me a shut in in my early teens, resulting in me not really having the social skills to make friends later in high school. Eventually I adjusted myself. I’m still not that good at making friends. In recent years I have had more girlfriends than actual friends. Although I felt like my relationships were hollow at best.
A year or so ago I met a girl and we really clicked and got into a relationship. But last month she just decided to block and ghost me. It felt completely unexpected to me. Before she blocked me I told her that I was getting a little sick.
Now I spend my time just sleeping and staring and waiting for nothing to happen. No matter what I try I cannot get out of this endless spiral of mundane jobs and overal sadness.
Anyone got tips to actually get out of the boring loop?
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no_crisis
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Question 2821
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Title: Just moved next door to domestic violence
Text: So just moved into a complex/townhouse where my walls are joined with next door and I’m overhearing a lot of abuse. It’s on a daily basis and I’m thinking drugs are involved. I can hear walking around all night and thumping. The 4th day I was here there was a commotion and the woman ran outside and mentioned something about him killing her and to call the cops to which someone did. The cops arrive 30mins later and no one answers their door except me. The woman doesn’t go to the door either, then they leave. He seems like a really intimidating individual and loose cannon, no regard for the law. Living alone I really don’t want to be targeted. What do i do?
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no_crisis
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Question 2822
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Title: Getting over my body betraying me during violent rape
Text: This all occurred over five years ago.
I was just out of college and living with a roommate in sort of rough neighborhood in a gentrified area of the city.
Was out for a run really late at night because I could not sleep, I should have been more heads up about my surrounding because two guys had already broken in.
They both had masks on over their mouths. One had a gun and they grabbed me had me go through house to take laptops, phones, credit cards.
They took me into my roomie's bedroom. The one with the gun turned on a tv to the block sound. The larger man holding me began to really roughly feel on me, I was crying a bit and begging them to stop but mostly in shock and stoic.
The large man forced me on the bed pulled my pants off and began to finger me and play with my clitoris. As much as I did not want to I began to get wet and had a visible orgasm.
Both men starting laughing and mocking me.
The large man then raped me while the one with the gun watched. I again had numerous orgasms. Both men continued mocking and laughing about this.
It made the humiliation even worse.
They left soon after. I never reported the rape but was tested for HIV and took Plan B even though he did not finish in me. I reported it as a home invasion. I was too scared to have to relive the case.
I have had therapy and have moved on somewhat. I have a struggled with depression at times and sexually I am still healing.
I do still enjoy rough sex and feel cycles of humiliation and depression afterward.
Your body is different than your mind
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rape_past
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Question 2823
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Title: Older sibling in need of advice to give to younger sibling with child
Text: I’ve had a whirlwind of a past 12 hours. My younger sibling called me crying saying that the mother of his child struck him (closed fist) in the head. In front of their infant (my nephew). She is aggressive normally, but never physical until recently. He removed himself and their child from the situation to ensure they were both safe by going for a walk. She followed and tried making a scene and when he wouldn’t be a part of what she was doing she walked back to their apartment. She then started texting threatening to kill herself trying to get a response.
I recommended he contact the police, but he wasn’t ready. He said the punch didn’t leave a mark. I was able to convince him to at least get out of the house for a couple days with our nephew and stay with us until the abuser calms down.
We’re in [removed] and I know as long as he’s clear with the mother of their child about that he’s staying with us for a couple days then there’s nothing illegal about that, but she’s saying she will tell the police he abducted their child. I don’t want my sibling and nephew in that environment while she’s acting this way, but I don’t know how to properly advise him.
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no_crisis
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Question 2824
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Title: How do you avoid selfharm? I feel like my therapist just does understand
Text: I feel as if alot of adults/therapist don't actually understand what they're talking about when the topic of selfharm is at hand. Because of this, all the tips and ways they suggest to avoid it come off as shallow and not really understanding the difficulty of avoiding the urge. So I'm asking y'all, other people who have experienced the urges. How do you try to avoid cutting before it happens?
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2825
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Title: Stop romanticizing him
Text: Honestly a big part of the recovery is realizing the truth of how my relationship was going vs what it actually was. Let’s set aside the “I should have been with someone who doesn’t hit me” aside… it occurred to me that if I had the ability to hear his thoughts about me, it’d probably make me want to throw up.
Because honestly what was I thinking? He was talking to me about how women are trash and bitches, talking casually about rape, for sure believing he has the right to beat women to teach them a lesson… and he thought I was a beautiful perfect angel? That I deserved to be treated well? NO.
I thankfully won’t ever hear the thoughts from his dark twisted nasty brain, but I should remember that he was trash and I didn’t lose out on him, and the relationship we had is not anything that I should desire.
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domesticviolence_past
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Question 2826
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Title: As a man, what can I do if I notice subtle signs of DV?
Text: I work in a self-service automotive junkyard in a big city. It's always busy with people from all walks of life every day. There's a popular taco cart in the parking lot that gets pretty busy at lunchtime.
A few days ago, I'm standing in line at the cart and there's a couple in front of me.
"What do you want on your burrito?" the guy asks his girl.
"Uhh, nothing to runny or like.. dripping." she says.
He gives her this *look* and she looks at the ground. "She'll have everything on hers" he tells the vendor. She walks away and gets in the car. Gave me a bad vibe by the way he said it. I watched my sister live with a guy like this for years before he ultimately attempted to kill her. He's in prison now.
I get my food and I'm sitting on the curb, watching their car.
She's looking out the window and I can tell by his head movement that he's most likely scolding her.
They eventually drove away and I felt powerless. I couldn't think of any possible approach I could have used and it's been bugging me.
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no_crisis
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Question 2827
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Title: Self-harming because the scars are fading
Text: it doesn't even make sense if i think about it, but i get this bad feeling. i kinda self-harm for attention (which is awful of me, i know, sorry), but i don't enjoy the thought of close ones seeing the scars. they're comforting though, maybe it makes things feel more real. i don't know what to do with myself anymore, i just wanna make new marks. i wanna make a scar that stays for longer. i feel like the worst person ever for this, but i need to say it somewhere.
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2828
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Title: My friend told me that she's been molested by a mutual acquaintance of ours. How can I help her?
Text: So, there is this guy I know. He actually works in the lab that I used to work in at my college. A close female friend of mine knew him via a college club.
She called me today that she was molested by him a couple of months back when she used to hang out with him. She also found other women who have went through the same thing with that guy. She seems very stressed. I would like to support her in the best way I can but this is the first time I am involved in a situation like this. She's a very close friend of mine and I don't want to say or do anything that would appear as being insensitive. I am not friends with the guy but he's like the one of the incharge of the lab and if you have to do anything in the lab you have to talk to him. I now feel disgusted by that person. I will try to talk to other incharge of the lab in case I need anything.
If you have any advice on how to deal with this then let me know.
Also if you know of any other subreddits which provide help and support for women who have gone through sexual harassment.
Thanks for hearing me out.
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no_crisis
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Question 2829
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Title: I really need someone to tell me I’m good enough right about now.
Text: I struggle with math, always have. It’s my junior year of hs, so I’m trying really hard. Last test I stayed late, got tutoring and extra help and ended up with a 58.5%. I fucking failed. Just got my most recent test back. I tried even harder, looked over with students and teachers to make sure I knew how to do it. I was so proud and confident. I got the test back in the beginning of our class today, and you know what I got? A 59%. I just left for the restroom and relapsed really bad to keep myself together. What am I doing wrong? All of the kids in my class are getting 90% without paying attention or asking questions like I am. I don’t get it, why is it so hard for me? Am I really not trying hard enough?
Also I’m fine now, it took 5 minutes to stop the bleeding but I got it together
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2830
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Title: Kissed on neck and mask strings cut off
Text: Not sure how to go about this... I was sitting on a chair with my eyes closed and at some point in time I did doze off and as I was resting a male coworker kissed me on my neck. It wasn't just a regular kiss he used his tongue because I felt the wetness and I immediately opened my eyes. I was in complete shock because I never gave him the impression that those actions would be welcomed. he also with a scissor cut the strings off of my mask at some point when I was sleeping. I didn't report it right away because I was afraid. It's covid a lot of people are without a job, I didn't want to somehow get fired because I did doze off for 10 minutes or so, and I just didn't want everyone to know what happened because I knew the things that would follow. I confided in one person about two months after it happened and everything was fine I was avoiding the offender. Just two weeks ago it came to be that someone told and unbeknownst to me people knew. Someone decided to report it to human resources and I was called up to the office and had no choice but to tell them. I'm a contracted employee and now my agency wants to legally handle this but all I wanted was to peacefully be able to get paid in full for the remainder of my contract and walk away. I don't want to be banned from the hospital system just because my agency wants to proceed legally and without my permission to do so because I don't want to take any legal action. I just want to peacefully be able to go on with my life and not be banned from an entire network and suffer those consequences that would hinder my ability to work for that hospital system in the future. I'm not sure what I can do at this point. I'm being bullied by another employee because of what happened who was spreading lies and has been telling people all kinds of things. This person even went as far as to send a text message to another male employee slandering me. I am in a lot of emotional stress with so many things in my life and this has just added on to all of the negative emotions I'm feeling and I find it difficult to walk in there everyday and have to face everything. I just want out and my agency seems to be ignoring my request to just simply ask them to buy me out of my contract.
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sexualharassment_past
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Question 2831
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Title: Workplace issues
Text: So sexual harassment is a huge issue around my work. These sleazy cooks touch up on all the girls, and they're all married men on top of it. This girl I really like has it horrible. I've talked to her about it and she's afraid to say anything for fear the cooks will retaliate. Even the kitchen manager is a pervert towards all the women. Unless they're unattractive. Like I almost want to say something to upper management for her because it's terrible a woman has to feel like that. Should I say something or just let her decide to say something after they've gone too far.
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no_crisis
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Question 2832
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Title: Losing common friends
Text: Hi! Has anybody else experienced losing common friends being the victim of DV? It‘s kinda weird to me, everytime I open up about how I feel people start going against me and want nothing to do with me anymore. On the other hand, they still hang out with my abuser and are friends like nothing happened.
Is this normal??
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domesticviolence_past
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Question 2833
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Title: Was it $exual assault?
Text: My ex-boyfriend always touched my ass in public. I was very uncomfortable. But unable to say. At his place we were watching a movie. He started touching me. He didn't asked me if I wanted it or not. I freezed. I couldn't say no. After that whenever I was going to his place I wore thick pants so he would be unable to touch me. It didn't helped. He started touching me again. Without asking again. When he was about to reach in my pants he asked me if I wanted it or not. I freezed again. I said I don't care. He did it. I couldn't say no. I was afraid what would he think if I say no. Once I said yes but I immediately regret it and was unable to say no. It was only one time when I said yes. I still don't know if it was really sa or not. Because he was nice, and I never said no. But everytime I met him I prayed to God he wouldn't touch me. Whenever I met him he always ended up touching me somewhere. I was just scared to say no. It was months ago. But I still think about it everyday and I feel uncomfortable around him. (he's my classmate) Was it sa or it's just in my head?
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sexualharassment_past
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Question 2834
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Title: My best friends raped me and I still want to be friends with them.
Text: I'm currently 17 years old, I have a friend group with three guys that I've known since I was seven. A few nights ago we were all hanging out. I'll admit I did get sexual with one of them, I was sitting on his lap and making out with him. The other guy's started to kiss me, lift up my shirt and they all were just laughing. And I'm saying No like "No, guys stop." and they're just laughing saying "it's fine". I couldn't move and they started having sex with me. I tried to push them off of me but they're all physically stronger than me. After, they just left me there crying
I haven't told anyone about what happened because no one would believe me especially not my parents. The next day I confronted them about it, they were gaslighting me, they were saying "You wanted to do it" "It's fine, you're just embarrassed you had sex with all of us". One of them asked did I like it and I said yes because I wanted things to go back to normal. Is it fucked up that I still want to be friends with these guys?
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childabuse_endangerment_ongoing, rape_ongoing
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Question 2835
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Title: Saturday Suggested Watching - 9to5: The Story of a Movement
Text: As this sub is growing, I thought it would be a good idea to integrate relevant documentaries, books and stories of people that have fought or overcome sexual harassment as well as the usual posts.
I am also in the midst of creating a wiki page with resources and helplines that anyone will be able to access, as it’s just me (for now) it will take a little while. Until then, I will offer resources for anyone that asks for them.
Today’s documentary is 9to5: The Story of a Movement.
Started in 1972 as a newsletter and later developed into a nationwide movement, 9to5 was a grassroots organisation of women office workers that often dealt with sexual harassment. Their goal was to gain better working conditions, better pay and progression in the corporate workplace.
[Further Reading](https://guides.library.harvard.edu/schlesinger_9to5/schlesinger_9to5_introduction)
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no_crisis
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Question 2836
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Title: I need help
Text: So I cut really deep on my thigh and I think it needs stitches but I don't know for sure so i'm freaking out but I don't want to tell my mom about this because I just got out of a residential treatment facility and she thinks i'm better
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2837
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Title: I'm attempting soon
Text: I can't take anymore of this. I'm so tired and done with being worthless and hopeless. Its not ever going to get better for me because I simply don't want it to. Life is pointless.
I'm going to try to kill myself soon. I doubt want to be here anymore.
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suicideideation_active_ongoing
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Question 2838
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Title: Dm if you need to talk/vent
Text: Dm if you need a some one to talk 💪🏿
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no_crisis
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Question 2839
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Title: is it weird that i fantasize about dying (but not death) to feel cared about
Text: question:
I starve myself regularly and s fantasize about the "reward" being remorse of other people and being deemed as fragile or needed to be taken care of . i'm underweight. i know it's quite ridiculous, but I like to be worried about, as I experience debilitating loneliness.
this emotion has been persistent for years.
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some background info (a little long)
my parents work too much and are often uninvolved in my social/academic desires without vigorous effort. they are often doubtful of my endeavors, uncaring and typically neutral, sometimes even demeaning, and rarely supportive.
i don't have any friends and i only have ever had online boyfriends. i stay by myself in my room all day. i graduated high school. so i can't make friends. i'm 16
People often describe me as "likeable, highly intelligent, energetic and fun" to be around. Every time I open my mouth I'm shrouded in doubt and self-disgust. I feel extremely stupid, occasionally to the severity where I am "mentally incapacitated". I often wish I was a genius, smarter, but I take myself as a fool. I go to great lengths to augment my intelligence in some way, and often overwork myself.
i am delusional regarding my self image.
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selfharm_ongoing, suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2840
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Title: How do you get past the emotional associations?
Text: What happened to me went on for a while, and the person who did it was good at making me feel like it was my fault, using my own responses to "prove" I really wanted it to happen. Now, whenever I feel something like that, I feel humiliated and ashamed, and I can't have good feelings without thinking about things that happened back then. How can I uncouple feeling that way now with what happened?
I'm sorry if this seems vague or doesn't make sense, I'm not sure how to explain this.
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sexualharassment_past
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Question 2841
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Title: How do you stop having suicidal thoughts?
Text: They’ve been becoming more and more the default thought pattern that comes to me whenever I feel crappy, which has been the case a lot recently, and I would rather have more comforting or at least a more productive thought pattern than this. I know these thoughts come from my feelings of hopelessness.
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suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2842
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Title: My parents are alive, but it doesn’t feel like it.
Text: Im 33 now, married and have a little boy. And im laying here with my little man listening to his sleepy time music with him. On the verge of just loosing it, and just shutting down.
My parents are both alive but neither are in my life. They have been divorced for easily 15 years now. I had a very shitty child hood. I wouldn’t wish my childhood on anyone.
My father, has been with his 2nd wife for some years now. I really dont know how long. I live 2.5 hours away from him now and he still never comes to see me. Almost never calls. Ill go months without hearing from him. The only time he calls me is when something is broke. He has only seen his grandson maybe 5 time since hes been born. My son is 5. He wasnt even there for the birth. My son was a couple months old before my dad even drove to see him.
My mom, unfortunately is not mentally stable. Shes always had issues, but out of the 3 of us kids (im the oldest) im the only one who tried to be there. Unfortunately I had to completely stop communication with her due to it being a safety issue for my son. Because it got so bad, and she refuses to get help.
I hated my childhood, I feel like I was robbed of life. I live right by my in-laws (no shit like 500 feet away) and they spend more time with me than my own family does. Even when we lived in other states they were there more than my own.
To make matters worse, my fathers sister, has not only once, but twice now. Has intentionally planned her sons weddings on my sons birthday. She did it first on his due date (we lived close by back then) and did it again this passed birthday (we live 2.5 hrs away now). She also spends a lot of time trying to make me look like some sort of looser, constantly spreading lies. My sons birthday was recent so this one is still fresh.
Its just killing me inside. I love my son so much, and cannot understand why someone would not want to be in their child’s life. I just want this feeling to stop.
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no_crisis
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Question 2843
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Title: Controversial opinion below
Text: Idk been struggling in a lot of ways recently and the gist of it is I wish I was the kind of depressed that made you skinny lmao. It's just one of those things that feels like it'd fix everything, even though I know it won't
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no_crisis
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Question 2844
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Title: Does anyone here do self-harm just to stop overthinking?
Text: Well, I did it again so that I could only think about the pain, and get my attention away from overthinking negative possibilities about my professors, classmates, and some burdening college responsibilities. I can't also stop thinking irrationally that some of my classmates hate me or that I'm being a burdensome to them. But hopefully, I would be able to focus studying for my final exam tomorrow while feeling the pain.
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2845
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Title: You ever feel so lonely and numb that all you have the energy to do is just sit alone in an empty room and do nothing until you fall asleep?
Text: I get in these periods where nothing brings me joy or satisfaction. I end up going to bed immediately after I eat dinner because what’s the point in staying up anymore. At least I can wake up early. I like quiet early mornings.
Or I’ll go periods of time where I won’t say a word to other people or myself for that manner. And when I do finally talk, my voice usually surprises me.
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no_crisis
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Question 2846
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Title: I think my neighbor might have an abusive BF and I’m not sure how to help her
Text: A couple moved in down the hall from me 1-2 months ago. Since then I’ve heard explosive arguments coming from their apartment multiple times because the BF comes out into the hallway during his episodes. It’s always the same pattern:
- BF having screaming matches with himself and every now and then I can hear the GF try to calm him down in a low voice
- He’ll slam the door multiple times and I can hear him hitting or throwing things around
Because I only hear him screaming and slamming doors, I have never called the police. I don’t THINK she is in physical danger but the screaming I hear from him is really bad. I’m scared that sending police will make the situation worse.
I’ve seen the boyfriend around multiple times but I have never seen the woman so I don’t know what she looks like or her name. My building doesn’t have doormen or a live in super. Any suggestions on what I can do here?
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no_crisis
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Question 2847
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Title: Would you as a mum/dad/sister/brother want to know it was coming?
Text: I want to ask them what keeps them living, do they have some sort of goal in life, something that keeps them going? I wonder if somethings wrong with me to be someone who doesn't see a life worth living.
I love my family and they have been trying to help me but my pain doesn't stop and i know they will do just fine without me because they all are hard workers and support each other.
So as a parent or a sibling who has a good relationship, would you want to know if your child or sibling plans to commit suicide some time, no exact date but rather letting them know it's going to happen someday?
I know I'm priviledged to have a loving family, I'm doing okay financially and i have a job already lined up next year, everything looks good for me but it just isn't that's why i think something is wrong with me.
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suicideideation_active_ongoing
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Question 2848
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Title: Should i report?
Text: Recently, my gym PT molested me, but it wasn’t really because i did kinda give consent?
i’m feeling very conflicted
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i’m female, 18, and just started working out with this PT dude, whose probably 25. I had 10 sessions with him and things went well, occasionally i felt as if he was overstepping his boundaries but i let it slide thinking he was just friendly.
i understand that when working out at the gym, it’s needed for some sensitive physical contact with my PT in order to excercise correctly and not hurt myself, That’s why i look over some of the red flags.
But then things went from 10 to 100 real quick.
one day he suggested i use the gym’s sauna for better muscle recovery, so i went in without much thought. But then i saw that it was only me and him in that room.
he started getting all close to me and ask if he can touch me, i thought he was doing muscle recovery massage so i gave an awkward sure.
it started just as that, but then he just went to suck on my nipple. then start touch me down under, and i just sat there. while he continued having his way with me, i didn’t say no, but at the same time i didn’t say yes as well.
He wanted to have sex with me, and so i refused. luckily he listened to me, but he was still very pushy. in that moment, i wasn’t direct nor confrontative like i want to be, rather i was this weak and shy person.
The next few sessions i have with him were very awkward, we did have a talk and i just wanted to let the event go and forget about it.
bassically, just move past it and let me just workout. at the same time, i was also trying to maintain a good relationship with him since he is still my trainer.
that incident was a week or 2 ago, then today, something similar happened again.
this time i did say no, that i don’t like it nor want it. But he was really pushy and just did some things without my consent. but not much happened.
Now i’m questioning if i should report him or not, since in some sense he was under a pretense that we have a good relationship and im okay with things because i didn’t alright reject him and didn’t want to hurt his feelings.
i feel so frustrated with myself for not being those badass woman who can stand up for herself. i really need some words of advice and encouragement right now since i never have something like this happen to me before
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sexualharassment_ongoing
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Question 2849
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Title: I feel absolutely nothing about being raped.
Text: I was molested for a couple years by my stepmom, I am a female btw, she left and as i grow older I do not feel anything. I can talk about it without any emotional reaction. I never lost sleep. I don’t struggle in relationships. I was always taught that my quality of life should not be stunted by others and I take that to heart every day. But is it healthy that I never felt anger, resentment, sadness, or anything negative about being raped?
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rape_past, childabuse_endangerment_past
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Question 2850
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Title: Some questions from a therapist.
Text: I’m a therapist at an outpatient facility trying to increase access to services in our community. I would like to know:
1. what barriers to mental health care you have encountered
2. what challenges you have faced in getting mental healthcare and/or while getting mental healthcare
3. what scares you most about reaching out for help
4. The most confusing aspect of accessing mental healthcare
5. Questions you currently have or have had in the past that went unanswered about how to access mental healthcare/mental healthcare services in general
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no_crisis
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Question 2851
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Title: I’m just so tired.
Text: It’s taking everything in me not to end it all today. The only thing stopping me is that the hunting opener is in less than a week. One of my dads only hobbies is hunting and I don’t want to ruin that for him. But I just can’t keep going.
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suicideideation_active_ongoing
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Question 2852
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Title: [rant] idk pls treat me nicely
Text: I've just moved across the country with my family and it's a lot of stress for all of us and up until maybe ten minutes ago I didn't know how much it affected me until about ten minutes ago
My mother came in to ask me how I've feel feeling lately because she's noticed I seem a bit moody, just checking up, I respond "yeah" in a anxious way because in my head she's seen the fresh cuts on my ankle when I forgot to cover them a moment before she came to check up on me.
She hears this yes and tell me essentially that because I'm 'okay' I should be literally just using a nicer tone with people and that essentially I'm just being rude including this interaction where I've barely spoken.
This prompted me to think about how I am, mostly because I accidentally cut way too deep after that interaction, thinking more about it, with my newfound excessive vaping and my extremely excessive weed smoking and being under stress at work and home maybe I'm doing trash and only just noticed
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2853
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Title: I probably am going to snap and overdose here soon.
Text: I’ve been considering going to the hospital for weeks because I feel so low and overwhelmed and everything sucks. But I can’t because I don’t have anyone to watch my dog 😍 so I’m just sitting here- getting worse and worse
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suicideideation_active_ongoing
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Question 2854
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Title: I just had the thought that even though I've been single my whole life, I've still technically only been "on the market" for 4 years.
Text: I'm 22 now, and realistically I wasn't ready to start dating until I was 18. So I guess it hasn't really been as long as it feels like. Idk, maybe I'm just being impatient and overreacting to not seeing results when I've only been at it for a few years
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no_crisis
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Question 2855
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Title: Feel like a failure
Text: One moment I'm good the other I hate myself, spending hours ruminating with depression and anxiety. A task I should do ends up postponed.
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no_crisis
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Question 2856
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Title: I hate that you need money to get help
Text: I hate fucking hate it. Therapy? You better be Jeff Bezos to afford that shit. Anti-Depressants? Not for your broke ass. Like, what should I do? Gamble and drink everything away? No, that costs money too. FUCK THIS.
I seriously don't know if I'm gonna make it. And nobody believes me. And I got no way to get help
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suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2857
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Title: What to do?
Text: I left my abusive boyfriend for the final time almost 3 years ago. I blocked his number, moved, deleted all social media and any presence on the internet. This has given me peace of mind that he won’t be able to find me or contact me. I am in a good place finally and in a healthy relationship.
I was just given a scholarship and in order to accept they want me to write a post and include a picture to be put on the national website. I’m struggling with taking the step to put myself back on the Internet. Am I being paranoid? I feel like I deserve the recognition and shouldn’t have to live in fear, but at the same time, I’m afraid.
I know if I want to accomplish my goals of owning my own business in the future, I’m going to have to go public with my face and name and location on the Internet. Should I bite the bullet??
Thanks In advance. I can’t really talk to anyone else about this.
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domesticviolence_past
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Question 2858
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Title: Faced my rapist, made it to cover of largest newspaper
Text: Yesterday the lawsuit against my rapist finally took place. I sat 2 meters behind him in court. I gave a speech on how the rape impacted my life. Today I woke up, the story, my story, made it to the front page of the largest national newspaper, was picked up by politicians through Twitter and in parliament. He shouldn’t have been out on the streets.
The public prosecutor demanded the very very maximum, in two weeks we will know the sentence.
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rape_past
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Question 2859
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Title: what was the reason you started selfharm?
Text: For me,I saw my friends doing it and because someone that I thought was my friend said something very hurtful to me and I couldn't stop thinking about it and wanted to get my mind off of it. Next thing you know everytime something bad happens I hurt myself
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2860
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Title: My client keep stroking and groping me.
Text: Hello. I work with the elderly and stay overnight. I’ve got this client that keeps stroking my arms, kissing my arms, and groping my breasts. He asked if I knew that I made him cum. I called my work, but they don’t think they can get someone to replace me at this time of the night. I’ll have to endure this for 4 more hours a least. I hope someone is up to talk to me.
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sexualharassment_ongoing
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Question 2861
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Title: I am going to post my rapist on tiktok. I'm tried of sitting in silence and hurting quietly when it seems like he is doing great.
Text: This summer I was raped by a tinder date on my birthday. The experience has left me traumatized, and I barely remember who I was before the incident. I posted a video calling him out by name on tiktok today, but it was removed for community guidelines. I don't think it got many views, but I wanna post it again. Is this the right thing to do? Am I making a mistake posting him?
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rape_past
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Question 2862
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Title: Y'all ever just look in the mirror and go "damn, no one will ever like you". That's me on a daily basis.
Text: I swear I feel like everyone who sees my face ends up having nightmares about it due to how ugly I am.
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no_crisis
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Question 2863
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Title: Self harm free
Text: I recently started the journey I’ve gone to therapy and I’ve gotten my antidepressant so far I’m two days clean I’m so happy
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selfharm_past
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Question 2864
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Title: Can't find the energy to leave
Text: Hi, I have been getting abused for 4 years now and I definitely need to leave my house. At first I was hoping he would change maybe acknowledge+apologize and try rebuilding our relationship. Unfortunately now I have lost all of my hope about this. I have been looking for a flat to rent for 4 months but they are either too expensive or I didn't act fast. I already feel too depressed to do anything let alone renting a new place, moving all my stuff and finding a job. I haven't told him that I was planning to leave as I thought this would only make things worse. I tried waiting for this depression to soften but it has already been 4 months and I'm sick of him. Do you have any advice? If you have gone through with this do you any tips? Thank you
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domesticviolence_ongoing
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Question 2865
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Title: I’ve been rejected over and over again today so I give up
Text: I don’t have any friends. Not one. I have people who are friends with each other and I’m on the bubble, meaning if I accidentally wind up hanging out with them they’re always saying how fun I am but I’m never, ever included in on future plans. Even if it’s just sitting outside enjoying the weather. If I do somehow get invited the plan usually gets canceled meaning they’ve decided to do something else and I’m not part of that plan. Today I had that happen. I tried to rally and humiliated myself by asking another group if they wanted to hang out. They said no they had too much to do but I see that they’re just sitting outside. I have to walk past their place to get in and out of my apartment and it’s just so humiliating. I texted my sister to try to get some comforting words and she hasn’t even read my texts. I know this sounds like I’m feeling sorry for myself but this is what happens when I try to reach out. It hurts much more to be rejected and alone than just lonely and alone.
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no_crisis
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Question 2866
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Title: Found a private investigator card in my door
Text: Is it possible that they're trying to collect defense information for my abuser's attorney? My abuser is in jail awaiting sentencing.
I am aware that I have no obligation to talk to them and to say "I need to speak with my lawyer" if they do manage to talk to me in person.
But has anyone else had this happen within about a month of an abuser's arrest?
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no_crisis
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Question 2867
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Title: I posted my experience on a sub. Had to delete.
Text: It was all comments of “I’m not sure I believe this” and “this is bizarre” “you’re not getting sympathy upvotes for your fake situation”. This shit hurts. So fucking much. To go through that and people literally tear you down. No I didn’t call the police because I know if I made a case there would be too much grey area and I know how rape trials go in my country. I don’t want to go through that. But fuck you to all the people that doubt if they’re true. I posted on this sub with my experience a while back. It’s not bizarre. It’s actually really hurt me because I was contemplating telling my mam this had happened. I’m completely put off telling anyone now.
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rape_past
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Question 2868
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Title: My best friend is about to marry a man who beats her.
Text: I really need advice right now, I’m freaking out. My best friend (25) just got engaged to her boyfriend (27) who is a monster. They’ve been together about two years. I see why (on the surface) she would like him, he is attractive, successful, and charming but he’s also an unapologetic woman beater. He has punched her, backhanded her, slapped her, shoved her, choked her, raped her. And that’s just what she has told me. I just don’t understand. She is brilliantly smart (I’m not just saying that because she’s my friend) I know she knows better than this. She has plenty of options, she’s beautiful and has a perfect body. She gets attention from men everywhere we go, I have always been envious of that. Shes the most confident person I know. So I don’t know why she wants this. She’s literally happy with him. She thinks he’s “perfect”. Her excuse for the hitting is that he has a temper. She also has excused it by saying he doesn’t beat her mercilessly he just “slaps her around a little”. I am white, she is latina and she once tried to tell me that all latin men are like this and that they are prideful and aggressive so I wouldn’t understand because white men are “weak”. Her apartment is always overflowing with flowers that he gives her as apologies. He is always buying her jewelry as make up presents. I feel like throwing up every time she shows off these gifts to me. I don’t know what to do. She won’t speak a word against him. I really don’t want her to marry him and be trapped for life but I don’t know what I can do. I have tried to talk to her a million times but she always shuts me down. I really need help. I don’t want her to condemn herself to this forever. And I don’t buy any of her excuses I think he’s arrogant and evil. And worse of all I know she will bring a child into this home soon, she tells me all the time she wants a baby boy as soon as they marry. I just want to save her.
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no_crisis
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Question 2869
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Title: seeking advice/opinions
Text: Trigger Warning: Violence
So I was in an over 4 year relationship but unfortunately we ended because he got drunk one night and became violent. He ended up punching me multiple times. I grew up pretty privileged and am white so I have always trusted police. He is black and grew up not trusting the law so much. Even though we are Canadian he sees the difference between how he is treated in his security uniform and when he's in plain clothes. To me it was simple, you hit someone it's criminal. You never tolerate being hit. If you get hit you leave. So that's what I did. I left and called the police. I had him charged but because this was his first offense the way our legal system worked out he doesn't have a criminal record now either. Anyways, after the no contact order was up I reached out to him. It was like nothing was different. We fell right back into the familiarity of being a couple and talking all the time. I told my therapist this and she said I need to stop talking to him. That he hit me so he should never get another chance to be with me or even be in my life. We were friends for almost 9 years before we got together. That's a long time to just throw away.
I'm basically wondering what I should do. I really don't want to cut him out because I love him and he's become my best friend for so many years. But is my therapist right? Does anyone feel like this is a pattern of abuse or could the mandated therapy he had have helped him enough to not do it again. I know my therapist is trying to look out for my best interest but she doesn't know what's in my heart
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domesticviolence_past
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Question 2870
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Title: Never stop fighting
Text: Had to share this. I've spent 2 years trying to get away from my abusive ex even after leaving him. He strangled me and fractured both sides of my skull the night i packed everything up to leave for good. I have tbi and I'm lucky to be alive. 2 years ago he took me to court for child support and my brain was so messed up i couldn't even spell MY OWN NAME right for the paperwork and today i received paperwork with my first victory with many more to come. 2 years of hell and abuse on top of all the abuse before i left and today i received verification of my first victory. I'm so happy. I never thought I'd get to this point in my life. I raised our kids and ended up changed for the rest of my life the night i left and still ended up having to pay him. I've healed somewhat enough that I'm not confused 24/7 and can actually fight back so receiving this paperwork is just happiness overload. Sorry i had to share its been such a long, sad journey. This is the happiest I've been in such a long time. Never stop fighting.
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domesticviolence_past
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Question 2871
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Title: does anyone else not cry while doing the deed
Text: i just start shaking a lot sometimes but i rarely cry idk why, i haven’t been able to cry at all lately
edit: guys i’m talking about sh not sex wtf
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2872
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Title: My Story
Text: So I saw a bunch of people post about their stories when I searched it on Google. And it gave me courage to download the app and post my story…
I was sexually harassed by my younger brother. 2 years younger than me. It started when I was maybe 10 and he was 8. He caught me saying “fuck you” and used it as blackmail, which yanno was a big deal for us at that age…
He would knock on the wall between us a specific pattern and if I didn’t come it to his room he would tell lies to my parents. Once I didn’t go in and he sprayed himself in the eyes with perfume and blamed it on me.
When I would go in, he told me to touch him down there or he would touch my boobs. I thought it was just childlike wonders but it continued for a couple years. It has stopped since I have grown up and attend college now but it still haunts me. Loud noises make me flashback to his knocks. They would get louder and louder until he did something to blame me for..
It wasn’t until I told an online friend (who called CPS) that my family knew. When I told them, my brother denied it and my dad said I was trying to separate the family. So I shoved it down.
My current boyfriend knows and is very supportive. Some college friends know and they also help me when I get the flashbacks and remember.
I despise my brother for it. But I still try to be a part of his life because even though I despise him for what he did, he’s my younger brother and i do love him. Is that wrong? That i still care and try to be there in his life even though he did this to me…
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sexualharassment_past, childabuse_endangerment_past
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Question 2873
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Title: What to do when someone has been sexually harassed in public?
Text: My girlfriend told me a story of how she was sexually harassed at a local bar, this guy that was passing by groped her boobs out of nowhere and when she told her friend he just laughed at it...
So let's say i was there and happened to witness the whole thing, what's the first thing that i should do or say??
How do i comfort a person who has been sexually harassed a few minutes ago??
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no_crisis
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Question 2874
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Title: i’m fully aware there will be people that would be sad if i committed suicide
Text: I feel like the first thing everyone says is that there are people that care about you and love you so you shouldn’t. but that doesn’t take away the pain you endure everyday. like i don’t care if people will be fucking upset i’m fucking upset and im exhausted
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suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2875
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Title: Do you ever feel like life slips away from you? everyone else is moving forward but you're stuck because of your own illness
Text: I just hate it so much, I always feel like as soon as I get better, as soon as I come back and wake up from my own reality, I get overwhelmed and muddled by my own list of things I want to do, get fit, get friends, do that thing I want, plan that career I want, and I'm just flooded with things I need to do and with the things I want to do, of course I don't want to pressure myself so I do it step by step but...
yeah I'm not pressuring myself or anything, I just see other people's lives and they're doing so much better than me, I get insecure because I'm so broken and run down to the point I don't get to even live my own life at this point.
I have frequent dissociation episodes so time, days, weeks don't really process well for me I'd be shocked that its already July and school is already starting for me.
I promised myself I'd get better and be better before school starts but now well, the moment has passed, and we're already starting.
It's just that when I'm stuck having mental health problems, time doesn't move for me. days don't feel like days, months feel like years, days just pass by constantly while I keep crying, I keep breaking down, I keep struggling and drowning.
that's all anyways I just wonder if any of you feel the same way???
Edit: Holy shit, I never expected to get so many upvotes, I feel sadder now that so many of you feel the same way. Its hard for me to see all these comments because I can see myself in different situations, the feeling of being stuck, of drowning, of floating.
It's hard for me to tell this to myself and let alone other people but someday it will get better, we just never know when.
And it's hard because we all get older and time moves on without us. We keep surviving because we wanna get through the other side.
I hope we all hope to get through the other side.
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no_crisis
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Question 2876
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Title: Suicide hotlines are bullshit
Text: They ask you the same robotic questions a complete strangers asks when they find out you want to die. Whether it’s texting or calling them it just feels awkward and I constantly have to watch what I say and lie otherwise I’ll have the police on my ass.
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suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2877
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Title: My Friend Harassed me, help?
Text: Today, my *friend* (F) approached me in class. We've been friends for a few months and talk normally, so I (F) was used to them approaching me. She occasionally makes jokes about us dating or her having a crush on me, which is fine, I usually don't mind. However, today she took it too far. I was backed up against my friends who were discussing smtg privately. She grabbed my face, got an inch away from me and said "You should date me." and "Date me." completely unprovoked. She also grabbed my hands. Then she tried to kiss me, which I obviously was not comfortable with. I backed up, making a joke about it because that was my only way of knowing how to respond. Then, after class, they came up to me in a corner and grabbed my face again, saying the same things, but I just left.
It's been a few hours and I'm thinking about reaching out and saying how uncool it was and how uncomfortable it made me, but I'm nervous. Her and I kissed once, but it was really as a joke and was a while ago. I feel like maybe she feels led on?
She knows about my experiences with S/A so it really hurt that she did that.
Should I reach out now or wait until we're face to face?
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sexualharassment_ongoing
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Question 2878
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Title: Unconditional Love is a Dangerous Concept
Text: I feel like the idea of loving someone unconditionally is something that our society values far too highly. Everywhere I look I see people lamenting an ended relationship and pining for some future lover who will love them and continue to love them "no matter what," but they never seem to take responsibility for why the relationship ended. It's always about the other person being too heartless to love them unconditionally.
After being in a domestic violence relationship with my ex boyfriend, I think that we don't deserve to be loved unconditionally, and I think the idea that needs to go away. No, you do not deserve to be loved after verbally or physically abusing your SO. You do don't deserve to be loved after threatening to take your SOs life. You don't deserve to be loved after lying through your teeth to your SO about every aspect of your life. And no, you don't get a free pass on any of these things because you've had a difficult life.
Love and relationships SHOULD be conditional. Society needs to stop glorifying people sacrificing their well-being to provide unconditional love to their SOs. Especially when it comes to abusive shitty people who will never change. If I loved my ex boyfriend unconditionally he would have ended up murdering me.
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domesticviolence_past
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Question 2879
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Title: Found the pills i stashed in my draw last night
Text: idk
i made plans to end things in august, and hid ativan pills in my draw. when i felt like i wanted to do it, i’d take about 3 at a time. they’d make me calm and sleepy.
i never actually had the strength to take all 10 pills at once.
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suicideideation_active_past
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Question 2880
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Title: How do you take shower
Text: How do you take shower after cutting yourself? Scabs melt in water and everytime it bleeds again. Somtimes my mom finds out my cuts because blood stains towel. I just want to know how you guys manage it.
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2881
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Title: I’m going to commit suicide tonight I ’m going to be alone and this anxiety is insufferable.
Text: I am 19 times old I made a pledge to myself to see how effects would ameliorate in the future, but they've only gotten worse and the same, I do not know what differently to do. Tonight, I am going to hang myself. I have written about it, told my family about it, went therapy and so on. All haven’t helped too much nor do they even care as I seen from it just ignoring or blaming. I am just really done. I can not feel to look at myself and feel useful because I am so lonely and just living being for its own sake. Loneliness is consuming me to know end. I believe there's nothing in this world for me. It seems as if there's nothing in store for me in the future maybe not true but I just see anything now just miserable and alone. I truly do not want to survive this time, it would be better for me to die.
I see occasionally everyone lead happy lives and live their lives. I despise who I'm and do not ever want to live again. Whoever reads this, thank you for being in my life and commenting. I can not stand being fully alone any longer. I infrequently manage to produce complete Words when I do get the chance to speak to someone. disregard a girl. Stuttering or the fair I’m boring not knowing what to say social anxiety. when I have something on mymind, I've a hard time actually saying it. Who on earth would be patient enough to hear me out? How could I conceivably keep a conversation with someone if I tried to talk to them? I can’t really communicate with them easily. Nor am I worth anyone’s time.
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suicideideation_active_ongoing
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Question 2882
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Title: ANYONE KNOW HOW TO GET RID OF SH SCABS FAST??
Text: It’s been about 5 days since i last cut but i have something coming up where i need to get rid of them like by tomorrow. does anyone know anyway to get rid of them quickly??
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selfharm_past
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Question 2883
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Title: i want to die . i don't fit in anywhere. i can't do anything properly. i can't function like normal human being . i can't connect to anybody.
Text: What should I do? I can't afford therapy. I don't have anyone to reach out to... I can't see light...
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suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2884
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Title: A close friend invited her friend who has sexually harassed me several times to her party.
Text: I chose to cut her off, but i am beyond hurt and disgusted with her. He touched me several times at several occasions over a two year span eventhough I cleary told him i wanted no contact. She knows this and promised to not invite him but she changed her mind. She wants to give him a last chance, since she believes his friends are influencing him. I feel betrayed, ended the friendship and obvioisly wont attend her Party.
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sexualharassment_past
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Question 2885
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Title: If you are trying to move out inconspicuously invest in garbage bags.
Text: I’m passing this along because it’s how I was able to get away from my abusive ex.
If you are afraid of someone noticing you’re moving your stuff out and you’re afraid it could send up red flags here are some tips:
- buy black “yard” trash bags
- put your clothes and fabric items in them.
- the trash bags will hide what’s inside
- if anyone asks, just claim you’re taking things to be donated
- make several trips over several days.
-if you have to drop the bag at a friend’s house outside in a rush, the bag is waterproof and gives them time to bring it inside.
- vacuum-seal ziploc storage bags work great for making comforters more compact and easier to carry out quickly.
-take furniture last - it’s the most obvious
- if possible, have a storage unit ready so you can make drop offs.
When I left I began packing trash bags while my ex was home. He’d watch me do it. I’d tell him it was all things the kids had outgrown, or things to clean out.
He left for work and the neighbors watched me move trash bags. Never anything they could see. I did this over days. When my ex was gone for a long weekend I moved all my trash bags out, suitcase and furniture last.
This is how me and my children got away. When he came back he was convinced the neighbors were lying and we “must’ve hired movers.” I was just quiet and careful. My kids and I were in another state before he came back. I left our things in storage until I could come back for it.
I hope this helps someone.
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domesticviolence_past
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Question 2886
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Title: just did my first ever beans cut and that shit is terrifying
Text: tw for description of deep cut
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i wasnt even trying to go deep, i was using my new tool on my arm for the first time and holy shit. it just opened up. i immediately freaked out and decided my best bet was to try to close it with bandaids. i have the kind that you can cut to size so i cut up a bunch of thin ones and used them as steri strips. worked surprisingly well. i used 5 of them to close up the 2 sides of the wound and its actually not bleeding through the bandaids so far.
but the fucking fear i felt. i didnt think it would feel that way. i felt faint, my heart was beating like crazy, i looked in the mirror and im literally pale. idk what i thought i would feel when i finally "went deep" but it wasnt this. it did not feel good. i do not feel accomplished, or satisfied, or "valid". i just feel scared. do i need stitches even if it stopped bleeding? so far the wound seems to be staying closed with just the bandaids. but idk what to do next. can i keep the bandaids on for long?? how do i change them without the wound opening back up?
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2887
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Title: i just want to end everything already
Text: Like I said yesterday, I can't stand the state of the world and my future is going to be shit no matter what we do. That and the fact some old man can just destroy everything at anytime, I don't have a reason to go on
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suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2888
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Title: Do you need a friend that accepts supports you?
Text: I've been lurking and reading some posts here, and I'm back to spread more positivity! My heart goes out to so many of you that are currently struggling with your own hardships. As you probably know I'm a 21F and I've been through quite a lot, which motivated me to be a better person - I believe that I've been given a second chance in life to spread positivity to others.
I read, write, play video games and I'm a student, I love fitness and sports, so if any of this seems interesting or you want to know more about me, feel free to reach out, don't be a stranger.
I'm so very proud of you guys, I keep saying that in my posts and I will keep saying that in more to come - you matter, you're amazing and I'm proud of you!
If you need to vent, need advice, need a "mommy", a self esteem boost or anything in the middle - reach out! I'll be waiting <33.
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no_crisis
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Question 2889
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Title: I don’t know anymore
Text: My intrusive thoughts have been getting bad, for weeks now theres been a little voice in my head saying I should just stop talking to my friends, so they forget about me, so I can just end my life without worrying about them.
today I took one step towards that, and it scares me. I’ve been getting so much worse lately
I just need advice or something I don’t kn
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suicideideation_active_ongoing
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Question 2890
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Title: Killing myself in a week
Text: I've decided to commit suicide via carbon monoxide poisoning on November 8th when I'm home alone. I want wish luck to everyone going through challenges in life. Unfortunately my problems will never be solved so I've chosen death but I hope anyone with even the slightest chance of being happy can see their life as a blessing and pursue happiness. If not I'll see you on the other side I suppose. ✌
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suicideideation_active_ongoing
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Question 2891
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Title: theres no point in trying
Text: Theres literally no point, idk how people can keep suffering in this shitshow, theres nothing for me in the future, thing wont be better, my mind wont let me have it, its just this endlessly battle between me and myself, im doing okay right now, things havent even looked brighter before, im doing good but i dont feel good and i dont think ill ever feel anything else than just "okay" i can look, feel and be fine with myself for some time but i will always come back to this hole, i cant escape it, when did i get this bad, why did i let myself be this bad too? I really dont see a point, is just worthless, i cant force myself anymore, the long nights and the even longer days, i think this is where my road ends, i might keep suffering more years but this will be me for ever and i dont think i can do something to change it, new stuff are good and fun for a while but in the end of the day im back to my cell, talking to people is cool and i love getting to know them but that wont made the pain and the doubt away, i tried and it didnt work, i wont go for drugs, i rather take the easy way out than getting addicted to it. I really really thought than getting out of my room and doing new stuff will help me out, i really believe all that shit but it didnt, not for me atleast, its over, i wont change, i cant change, theres no point in trying when at the end i will go back to feel this.
Love can't help you, help starts with yourself, is an state of mind, everything is but love won't do it for you, it might help me to those lucky ones out there but everything starts with you and when you are so fucked, there's nothing to do now, right? Besides i never felt this "love" never, i saw it everywhere but i cant feel it, im emotionally dead, maybe not but it feels that way. I just wish everything to end one or another, just make it happen please, im tired please, why me? What did i do? I just want to rest please, its been 8 years and im just 21, theres no point, im done waiting, theres literally no point or excuse to keep living, made out your mind before its too late, future isn't pretty and we all know that, i just want it to stop
If you read all of this then i'm sorry that you even have to be browsing this subreddit, nobody should deal with this, never. Im sorry.
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suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2892
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Title: I need some advice
Text: I don't know if this a right thing to post here, but I feel violated.
I (f21) know this guy. We were together in high school and got along well. We weren't really well friends, but always friendly with each other. He was/is very religious and shows that.
He got into fights in class discussions and once stormed out of class during a discussion. I tried to never be an arsehole to him and laugh at him like the rest of our peers.
Two years later I had a faith crisis and spontaneously decided to contact him. I opened up to him and he was kinda thrilled to help me. He was really nice and I thought I could talk to him. But then things started to get weird. The religious stuff got to extreme and he was very sexist towards me.
Then he tried to analyse me. Said that I had trust issues and stuff. That I was self conscious. My problem apparently is that I was never sexually intimate. Told me how sorry he was that I never was in love and how much I missed. Once he said that I just needed an orgams and he constantly talks about how hard it is because he is so horny all the time. He said that I would totally fuck him
Then came the evening that made me physically uncomfortable. He wanted to cuddle. OK not that weird I thought. So we were there and he asked me if he could kiss me. I said no. He tried to kiss my neck. I moved away. He said sorry. I thought everything was alright again, but he started to like give me a kiss on the cheek every two minutes.
I felt uncomfortable. The next couple of days I felt uncomfortable. The thing is I kinda just froze up during that evening.
He wrote me messages how he was sorry that he made me uncomfortable. So I kinda just pushed everything aside.
Then we met once again.
We sat on the couch and I was talking about a show when he took both my hands and pulled me in and kissed me on the cheek.
I immediately pulled away. He said sorry. Said that he thought I was sending him signals and that I was aroused.
I left after a short time and decided to not see him again. It has been two and a half months since then.
From time to time I get flashbacks and I have the feeling that I can feel his lips on my cheek. He never touched me bellow the waist or my chest. He also never kisse me on the lips. I still feel uncomfortable and disgusted. I fear that I won't be able to let anyone kiss me in the future. Additionally the religious stuff left scars as well.
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sexualharassment_past
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Question 2893
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Title: Anyone feel like they’re talking to a wall?
Text: Anyone feel like they’re talking to a wall when they’re talking to family members?
And anyone have a sibling or know of someone who cuts you off or changes the topic everytime u open ur mouth to speak unless ur agreeing with them? My brother just completely disregards me so casually when I’m speaking directly to him lol how rude. I really wish I had a friend group and a bf/gf.
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no_crisis
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Question 2894
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Title: If you can’t be a good friend- you shouldn’t have them. Mental illness is not a valid excuse.
Text: As a person with mental illness I understand just how easy it is to get caught up with your own stuff. It’s not something you can just “get over”. But If you are going through things to the point you are unable to think of others, you get easily defensive, disregard others boundaries for your own and are consistently unreliable, do NOT make friends. You will be toxic to everybody you meet. Whether you mean to or not. When I was in my darkest place, I was uninterested in making friends or establishing close relationships and I made that pretty clear until I got the help I needed. I have been on the receiving end of the behavior of people who decided to still make friends despite not being able to handle doing so. Its hurtful to be ghosted by people you think you connected well with. To have your every plan you were excited about for days be crushed by their flakiness. your kindness being taken advantage of at every corner. Those are terrible things to do to someone. Mental illness or not. Your feelings are not the only ones that matter. And if you are in a state where you are unable to grasp that you need to let people know you are an emotionally unavailable person and be direct. if you are aware of how “not there” you are for people you say you care about and never apologize or feel bad about it, I question if you’d be a good person in the first place. Having mental illness does not excuse toxic behavior and it does not make you an automatic angel. I have a lot of patience for people who are trying their best yet are struggling and are honest about it, and take responsibility for their actions. I do not have any patience for those with zero care about how they may have hurt someone. Even in my worst pit of depression I could never “not care” if I was hurting another person. I just don’t understand that logic. I would at least apologize and mean it.
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Question 2895
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Title: I'm a strong, career-focused, highly professional woman, but I was in a DV-marriage. I struggle to relate to the stereotype of the victim and find the right support. Can anyone else relate?
Text: I know that DV comes in all shapes, sizes, populations, genders, social groups, etc.
However, I am struggling to find stories that I can relate to. I am a strong professional and I think most people I know would be *shocked* that I was in a DV-marriage. I tolerated a lot because I was paying for him to get better, see therapists, psychiatrists, try medications, and I was able to feel semi-safe during this process, since I am the breadwinner. I pay the bills, I own the house, and I knew that if it came down to it, I have a safe place to be and can take care of myself.
My DV was primary emotional abuse and angry outbursts/put downs, but also occasionally physical in the form of grabbing, squeezing, shaking, holding down, and throwing things at me. I was never *hit* or *beat*, in those sense of the words. I am already facing unintentional stigma from his mother (who is supportive of me and meant well), when she said, "Well at least it wasn't very serious/bad." - when he was finally arrested and charged for grabbing/squeezing/shaking/slamming, because I wasn't *beat*.
I struggle with identifying as a victim or a survivor. I struggle with finding people who have the same kind of support and social constructs as me. Is there anyone out there who can relate to this scenario? How did you manage after the divorce/break up/whatever you did?
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Question 2896
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Title: I did it again after seven long months
Text: I tried so fucking hard not to- but I snapped and got back to it. Idk what to say but I’m tired of myself and I hate how all my effort is now back to nothing. After all the persistent urges too-
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2897
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Title: I just got a girlfriend, and she broke up with me on the same night.
Text: Ok, so a bit of background: a few hours ago, me and this girl started talking in a chat room, and we got on really well. We talk about being lonely, and later, we exchanged Discord info, and moved the conversation there.
After some more talking, we had sent each other pictures of ourselves. I let her know I had some self image issues, and she came back saying that I was cute, and that “She’d turn me confident.” After this, she asked if I’d be interested in dating, and I told her I was.
At this point I was on the verge of happy tears, and I decided to let her know that I had a lot of problems with loneliness, toxic family life, I alluded to depression etc, and she replied with genuinely kind words, and generally helped to make me feel better about my situation and myself.
A little while later, she asked where I lived, I told her, and we realized that we live only thirty minutes from one another, and she said she couldn’t wait to cuddle me, and some other sappy stuff, but then, she didn’t reply for a while. A bit of time passed, and she just told me, out of nowhere, that she doubted the relationship would work, because she was submissive, and she got the sense I was too.
And after that, nothing at all.
She’s ignored the few messages I’ve sent back, and I’ve already cried and had a panic attack. All-in-all, I just feel an overwhelming sense of “what did I expect?”
It feels like every genuinely happy moment in my life—the few times when I feel like something is actually going to be ok—exists specifically to be ripped away at the last possible second.
Edit: Hey-o, I definitely didn’t expect the attention, but thanks for it all the same, folks.
My brain definitely wasn’t in the best of ways when I posted this, and it was coming more from a place of emotion than logic.
After some actual thought, I know I should not have put as much stock as I did into someone I’d just meant (on the internet, no less).
I know that the trauma-dumping I may have accidentally done was a really bad move on my part, but also that she may not have been worth it anyway, if she was willing to kick me to the curb like she did. The whole situation was rotten from the get-go; I see that now.
I appreciate both the empathetic words, as well as the frank advice, hard as it was to hear. Thank you again for your time and attention. :)
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no_crisis
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Question 2898
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Title: What is this?
Text: I started using SLOWLY to meet people and have penpals. but this one... it's bad, isn't it? Am I overreacting? This is the 4th letter he sent me. So we don't know each other at all. My expectations were that it would be casual but it quickly turned into this. it's wrong to ask a stranger if they had sex or not, right?
https://preview.redd.it/9t66kt5nv1p81.png?width=1366&format=png&auto=webp&s=0cacc4221025087fdb67b6ffda5995460a7123da
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sexualharassment_ongoing
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Question 2899
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Title: I don't know wtf to do or feel anymore
Text: Here on my lunch break at work. Why the fuck is life like this? I don't even want to kill myself because the pain it will cause my family is not worth mine but I just wish I truly was never born. It's like everywhere I go, I see nothing but chaos. I've tried the meds and therapy before but nothing works, why the fuck do I feel like this?
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suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2900
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Title: Sexual harassment settlements
Text: Anyone know the average payout for an ongoing sexual harassment and retaliation claim? Is mediation worth it in NYC?
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no_crisis
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Question 2901
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Title: Long term depression - fed up and desperate to fix this
Text: Hi everyone. I am looking for some advice on how to proceed.
I am almost certain that I'm depressed, have been for a long time and I want to do something about it. However, I think that most of my issues stem from leading an unhappy/unfulfilling lifestyle.
I live alone and have done for about 15 years, I have been single for 10 years, at my age most of my friends are married and have kids, and I hated my job so much that I quit without anything else lined up. I struggle to find hobbies that are not solitary and there are a very limited number of interest groups available in my area.
I can't help but think that if only I can resolve all of those issues then I'd be happy. But I am sure we all know that finding the energy to tackle these things while in this state and alone is incredibly difficult.
Many years ago I was prescribed citalopram and ended up on a fairly high does. This did little but make me feel like a zombie and I am reluctant to see my doctor again because of this. Perhaps the communication on both sides was lacking though. I am from the UK for context. I'm unaware of any free counseling/therapy services here and after trying private for a while it was ultimately too expensive to continue long enough to get any real benefit.
Any insights or suggestions on what I could do would be really appreciated. I'm determined to fix myself and just need some support to get me started.
Thanks
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no_crisis
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Question 2902
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Title: Am I invisible?
Text: I want to know why people ignore me when I talk to them. I want to know why people exclude me from plans and conversations. I want to know why people don’t acknowledge me when I walk into a room. I want to know why people ignore my messages. I want to know why no one asks me to hangout. I want to know why people don’t ask for my input on things. I want to know why people don’t ask me about my day. I want to know why people look through me and walk into me. It can be people I’ve known my whole life or just met. I haven’t done anything to anyone. I’ve been respectful and loyal and kind and helpful and caring and friendly and everything everyone is talking about wanting in a friend/partner/child/etc. I’ve never done anything for anyone I’ve just met ignore me. I made some mistakes in past relationships with people but I’ve always came back and worked things out and fixed things. I’ve never done anything extremely bad like killed somebody or robbed a bank or anything for people to treat me this way. I feel like a ghost. Like nothing I say or do matters. I feel like life is pointless. I can’t get a job because literally no one is hiring by me and I don’t have a car or license to travel further to get work and I have a chronic condition that prevents me from working a lot of basic starter jobs. It’s getting really cold and I’m not able to walk to the store to get what I need and half the time I can’t walk to the store anyways because I’m in so much pain from previous injuries. Plus most of the stores that I need to go to aren’t within walking distance. My business isn’t making enough money to keep me afloat either which is why I’m 24/7 looking for ways to earn money. The only time people ever come up and talk to me is to degrade and make fun of me for not having a job or fitting clothes or where I’m living or some other crap. I haven’t really been suicidal since highscool but the thoughts are slowly creeping back into my head. I can’t ask for help either because I’m a man in society and men are supposed to be strong and tough and hard and deal with all of this. And no one can say that’s not true. I can’t tell you how many times people have told me that I’m a dude and dudes don’t cry or suck it up and be a man. I get told to deal with it. It’s all true. And then when someone lets me cry on there shoulder for a second and vent they dip from my life immediately after that. I’m just a ghost existing. What’s the point of being here anymore? I’m not doing anything and nothing Is going up. I literally have 0 dollars in the bank and 0 cash. I only have maybe less than a quarter of the possessions I used to have a year ago since I sold most of my stuff to pay for stuff I need to live day to day. No one is going to actually miss me if I’m gone. No one misses me or cares to text me when they wake up in the morning and I’m not there. I’ve been gone days without anyone noticing then seen them surprised to see me walk in the door. No one cares. I’m the only one I matter to and I’m even not even mattering to myself anymore. Im starting to become careless when Im out walking home late at night and walk through dangerous neighborhoods and in the middle of streets and stuff. No one will care. Im by myself. They’ll Probably just drag my body to the side of the road and drive away. I don’t matter. Who cares.
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suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2903
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Title: I don’t know how to feel
Text: On my phone so forgive any formatting issues. I don’t know if this is the right subreddit or not, if it is the wrong one I’ll take it down but I want to get this off my chest.
So I (F) went out with couple of people I know a while ago (pre covid) on a night out. For context, I feel like I should say that I have quite a big chest, I get comments about it fairly regularly but I try not to let it get to me.
Anyway we were up dancing and having fun when another girl, who I’ve only met a couple of times came up behind me and grabbed my breasts, made a jokey comment about them and leaves. I laughed it off at the time but it made me uncomfortable. There was no reason for it. I know I have a big chest but that doesn’t make it public property, you can’t just grab it when you feel like it. I haven’t told anyone that was there because I don’t want to make a big deal out of it but I really didn’t like being grabbed. I also feel like I’m over reacting and feel like it wasn’t a big deal because it was a girl, while I know if it was a guy it could have been worse or people would see it as worse? It could have been worse in general. Was it wrong of her or am I overreacting? I don’t know how to feel.
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sexualharassment_past
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Question 2904
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Title: should i just end it? there’s genuinely nothing to live for anymore..
Text: i’m in so much pain, no meds work for me, all i do is smoke weed 24/7 and rot in bed, nothing makes me happy anymore (besides my cat and dog), i’ve never had a best friend, my parents don’t even know how to help me anymore and i’m sick of pushing myself everyday to be happy
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suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2905
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Title: i feel like im overreacting.
Text: so in april-ish i became friends with this person. i'll name them Alex. so alex and i became friends and we got pretty close. we texted almost every day and i started speculating they had a crush on me. pretty soon they said they do, which usually i wouldn't mind. however, im a lesbian and this person, while non-binary, had a dick and so therefore i wasn't attracted to them. they began constantly guiltshaming me saying things like "ugh it sucks to have a crush on a girl who's a lesbian" and shit like that. they also began asking me to "just try dick" bc how could i know if i've never tried it? they repeatedly asked me out, asked me to try dating them, and ask me very personal questions abt sexual habits (btw i was in eighth grade. both of us were but still. i was a virgin, still am, and definitely am not ready to lose it.) it got increasingly worse and after telling them it made me uncomfortable they continued. i finally realized this wasn't normal and broke off the friendship. it upsets me to even be around them nowadays but i feel like im overreacting. does what happened count as sexual harassment? i know that sexual harassment includes inappropriate language but still.
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sexualharassment_past
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Question 2906
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Title: Life feels like it's spiraling?
Text: I'm 23F & I've been house ridden with anxiety and depression for about 2 months now. I have health anxiety, Agoraphobia, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, etc, on top of having health issues. Hypothyroidism, Hashimotos, Type 2 Diabetes, PCOS, etc. I was doing fine up until out of the blue, I wasn't? Being outside made me dizzy, eyes blurry, and like I was going to pass out. This progressed into me not wanting to leave home at ALL. I thought maybe hormones? Since my periods were out of whack and what not, I talked to my doctor about getting on birth control. Due to risks, I was put on progestin only pills or "POP" pills. They give me my periods, but now I experience flu like symptoms? I have no appetite. I can only eat soup. Everything else I throw up, or have awful bathroom breaks with. I feel like the past two months, I've gotten no breaks. It's constant anxiety. I cry randomly thinking about how I miss being "normal". I can't clean my house, personal hygiene is hard, everything is so hard. I feel so silly and like a burden to everyone around me. I want to be able to do things but I just can't bring myself to do it. Some days I feel a bit better, other days I feel like I can't even get out of my bed. I'm at a loss.
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no_crisis
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Question 2907
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Title: Idk where to put this
Text: TW csa
I’ve been through a lot of crap when it comes to sa and csa but I think I may have recovered a memory. I saw a video pop up on tiktok about cocsa and I thought about my best friend as a kid and the way we would play. The problem is when I try to remember more it’s as if I can’t remember them.
I don’t know if this is a real or a false memory and I just needed to get this off my chest.
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childabuse_endangerment_past
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Question 2908
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Title: My life is so much better than most people
Text: Reading through this subreddit is wild to me because I spend so much time feeling bad for myself and wishing my life were better, but honestly it’s so much better than almost everyone here. I don’t mean that to brag I only say that because it’s depressing that I have a “good” life and still spend most my time hating it
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no_crisis
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Question 2909
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Title: please give me advice
Text: my boyfriend has an eating disorder. i hate to see him struggle so much with it everyday, it's just heartbreaking. i wish i could do more to help him, but all i can do as of now is offer all the support i can give. is there any advice anyone can give for me to help in any way? i would give anything just to be able to help him feel better. he works so incredibly hard, both at his job and in our relationship, and i just wish i knew how to do more for him in this regard. any advice is welcome and encouraged.
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no_crisis
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Question 2910
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Title: It’s my birthday today (:
Text: Lurker here. But will probably be posting here more soon. Anyway, I see everyone doing this bday post. I think it would be nice to receive some bday wishes as well. Ps: I’m 22 now!
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no_crisis
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Question 2911
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Title: I Want Help
Text: I am a senior this year and have battled all kinds of wellness problems without any professional help. I would love to get some professional help, but I’m afraid of how my family would react. With all that’s going on at school as well, I cannot afford to put my mental health first, then school second.
I’m 2020, one of my closest friends (let’s call her Sara) went through a tough time with mental health. Every time I saw her, I would see new scars over her old ones. Back then I could have never saw myself cut my own arm, it didn’t make sense. How could you hurt yourself when you are already hurting yourself.
Flash forward to now, I’m sitting on the bathroom floor, confessing on reddit while glancing at my arm. This may not be the same to everybody, but for me, I think I am doing this because I just want others to know physically, that i’m not mentally okay. It’s been 4 years and I want somebody to notice, just to ask if I’m okay. That people do care about me. This may make me seem selfish, but this is me being honest.
I present myself as this happy extrovert, when in reality I just want to stay at home, and let my brain take over of all these suicidal thoughts. When I cut myself, I can feel those haunting thoughts escape me through my scars, and I feel free. But, these scars are portals that can absorb the thoughts again anytime. I really want to stop harming myself and I would love some advice to anybody whose been in my shoes. I’m scared that my thoughts and tolerance to pain will continue to grow to the point where these scars are not wide enough for my thoughts to leave. I really don’t want to kill myself but some days my actions and thoughts are not aligned.
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selfharm_ongoing, suicideideation_passive_ongoing
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Question 2912
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Title: Perpetual victim
Text: Why does it feel like you're more likely to be a victim again and again if you've been a victim once?
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no_crisis
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Question 2913
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Title: I need to get all of this off my chest.
Text: Sorry if this is hard to follow, I grew more and more emotional as I typed and this whole thing might have become a little disjointed.
I'm 16, I know I have my whole life ahead of me and all that stuff anyone even a little older than me likes to remind me. I know that's true, but at this rate I won't get to see that life.
I'm black, ftm, autistic, disabled. I'm very emotionally unstable. I'm not smart, I have no skills, no hobbies, no interests. There's no place for me in this world or in my own communities for that matter, my existence is a waste of time, energy, and space for me and everyone who knows me.
As if all that isn't bad enough, I know life doesn't get much better from here. It gets harder, more complicated, etc. I'd like to put myself out of my misery before things worse. I've already got the beginnings of a plan in my head.
All it takes is one more inconvenience and I might not make it to the end of this month, let alone Christmas.
If my parents find out about how I'm feeling I could get in trouble or even disowned. I don't know what will happen and I'm too scared to reach out to any adults that should be able to help in case they don't do anything (has happened in the past 3 times already, 2 more recently) or they tell my parents and my home life becomes a wreck.
I feel so trapped.
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suicideideation_active_ongoing
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Question 2914
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Title: Idk what to do
Text: I have a friend Ash who my mom said I can go over to if I don’t hurt myself this week but I don’t think I can make it until Friday does anyone have any suggestions??
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2915
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Title: How do I get through the first days after my assault?
Text: I’m not going to the police and I’m not telling anybody I know what’s happened. I just can’t. I know it’s what I should do but I can’t do it.
Barring those two options. What do I do right now to get through? How do I cope? Like I said I can’t tell anyone so how do I find a way to get through this on my own?
I took plan b but I need to find a clinic near me that will do std testing for free (he didn’t use a condom.) — or at least discounted/affordable testing. I have insurance but I’m on the plan with my parents so they’ll see what i got tested for.
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rape_ongoing
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Question 2916
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Title: Fighting City Hall
Text: CORRUPTION
Is the City of Redondo Beach above the law?
Under Redondo Beach City policy, California State law, and Federal law, it is illegal to retaliate against police supervisors for reporting incidents of sexual harassment or racial discriminatory hiring practices reported to the supervisor by city employees.
State and Federal laws protect both current and former employees who report these law violations on behalf of others against any form of retaliation.
The Mayor of the City of Redondo Beach, the city council, and city management are not exempt from abiding by laws which protect former city employees from any form of post-employment retaliation against them for reporting discrimination and sexual harassment in the workplace.
My name is Rody Contreras. I was born and raised in the City of Redondo Beach. I retired as a police sergeant after dedicating 33 years of my life working for the Redondo Beach Police Department. Since my retirement, the City of Redondo Beach has continued retaliating against me, post-employment, by denying me my contractual pension benefits for reporting discriminatory violations against other city employees. As a single parent I rely on my pension to support my family, but this issue is about more than my pension benefits.
Discrimination should not be tolerated at any level within city government. Sexual harassment and racial discrimination are unacceptable violations against basic human rights and should not exist in the private or public sectors of government. The City of Redondo Beach’s continued retaliation against me for reporting acts of discrimination against my fellow employees leave me little choice but to file a lawsuit next month for breach of employment/retirement contract and violation of my civil rights.
Post-employment retaliation against former police officers sends a strong message to current police officers not to report internal unlawful activity, lest they intend to suffer the consequences of the city’s retaliation. Police officers need to know that they can count on the support of the public when reporting internal unlawful activity.
In a time when the exposure of corruption within law enforcement has generated a great amount of distrust for police officers, it is vital to support officers who stand against this corruption. A healthier and safer police department means a healthier and safer community. In solidarity, we must hold our local government officials accountable.
Please take a moment and fight against sexual harassment, racial discrimination, and government retaliation by emailing your opinions and objections to the Redondo Beach City Manager, Mayor and Council. ***Standup against City corruption***
Redondo Beach City Mayor Bill Brand: [email protected]
Redondo Beach City Council Members – Nils Nehrenheim: [email protected], Todd Loewenstein: [email protected], Christian Horvath: [email protected], John Gran: [email protected], and Laura Emdee: [email protected]
Redondo Beach City Manager Joe Hoefgen: [email protected]
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no_crisis
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Question 2917
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Title: Does anyone go through phases of acceptance and denial?
Text: Hi all,
I’m struggling with being caught in phases of acceptance and denial.
Part of me thinks that it can’t possibly be true, that I wasn’t raped. Maybe I just made a mistake and I’ve just been living a lie for years. But then some days, I can realize that what he did to me was wrong and abnormal.
It really eats me up inside and it’s been eating me up inside for over a decade. Can anyone else relate? I know it’s a process but I guess this denial is making me feel like I can’t heal.
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rape_past
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Question 2918
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Title: do i need stitches?
Text: i sh'd again recently and i managed to get like a 6cm long 4mm wide styro on my upper arm (the biggest yeet on my body by far) and it's been over 36 hours since i did it and i can still see the styro which is unusual for me since all my other cuts usually stay red after they fill up with blood... is that normal? what should i do? should i get stitches?
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selfharm_ongoing
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Question 2919
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Title: A reminder
Text: A really lovely friend just reminded me of something. She said, "I know lots of really intelligent women who have got caught in relationships like this. You have nothing to be embarrassed about."
No person deserves violence from their loved ones. It doesn't matter how fucked up you think you are - this isn't on you. Walk away and go find joy.
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no_crisis
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