eidolan:

lovemeunlovely:

rocketrissa: lovemeunlovely: rocketrissa: askanonbinary: lovemeunlovely: she/her/hers/herself

he/him/his/himself

it/it/its/itself (this one to be used ONLY IF YOU’RE EXPLICITLY TOLD THAT IT IS OKAY)

ze/zir/zirs/zirself

ce/cir/cirs/cirself

hir/hir/hirs/hirself

xe/hir/hirs/hirself

ey/em/eir/eirself

ve/vir/virs/virself

xe/xir/xirs/xirself

hu/hu/hume/humeself

ve/vaer/vaers/vaerself

fae/faer/faers/faerself

they/them/theirs/themself

this one/ that one

use of name in place of pronouns, absence of pronouns

alternation between any subset of the pronouns listed above, i.e. between xe and he and she, or they and she, etc.

use of combination of pronouns listed above, selecting different declensions from different pronoun sets, i.e. xe/faer/faers/themself Use the pronouns people ask you to use, always Please feel free to add your own or any ones that I missed I haven’t heard of some of these! I’d love to know what fae/faer/faers/faerself stands in for The fae pronouns were coined by a friend who’s gender stands somewhere between angel and fae-creature, and they are derived from the word “fae” as in fairy I’m a bit confused—what I know of the Kind Ones and angels of any sort are that they are a lot of times genderless but sometimes binaried? And that there seems to be a spectrum? I’m really curious about this as a fellow non-binary! I describe faer gender this way in part because that is the way fae describes it to me, and in part because if you met faer, it would make a lot of sense, fae /feels/ otherworldly and fae moves like dancing. I’m not well versed in any sort of lore so I’m afraid I can’t really give you a more detailed answer.

Okay, so!

Why did I choose fae/vaer as my pronouns?

Because I am fae. I am described as such by people who don’t know me — fae and feline and not-exactly-human. I do identify as faen, and in some ways angel as well, and fae and angel are the goals of my presentation. My choice of fae as a pronoun reflects this.

Using fae as a pronoun started out half a joke, a 1am offhand comment that fae would be one of the only things I could use as a pronoun and identify with. The next morning, it wasn’t so much a joke anymore, and by the end of the day my girlfriend and I had come up with how fae would work as a pronoun.

To address the point about fae as binary or not — it depends on your source material.

My personal view on this is that fae and fae creatures as stand outside the binary. They probably have some form of gender, but it’s most definitely not our human binary. Angels, on the other hand, are genderless. They have no sex and they have no gender. Together, fae and angels are the two sides of androgyny that are possible, and kind of form a secondary arc around the male/female binary: that of gendered/genderless.

…so in some ways, I’m using fae as a giant ‘fuck you’ to the gender binary and a refusal of much of the American culture surrounding gender. My gender is yes. Except when it’s no. Either way, it’s not male or female and using a pronoun that is very associated with creatures that stand outside humankind is, for me at least, a very good way to remind people of this constantly.