The thing about when bi people in straight relationships say it isn’t a straight relationship b/c they aren’t a straight person - it only works one way, which is the definition of privilege.

In a straight couple you can claim to not be a straight couple b/c of your individual orientation, even as you benefit from the protection that relationship offers you. You can opt out of being responsible for your privilege, while still fully benefiting from it.

Now picture a gay couple trying to do the same thing. “We aren’t a gay couple even though we’re two women, because we’re both bi!” It doesn’t work for them. This logic will not protect a gay couple from housing discrimination, or anti gay marriage laws, or being targeted w hate crimes.

That logic only makes straight couples exempt from acknowledging their privilege, but does nothing to change the reality of the oppression gay couples face. So stop playing around w semantics - you KNOW what “gay couple” and “straight couple” means and splitting hairs over it is privileged BS.