This depends on your objective. There are only two possible modes when a girl interacts with a guy: 1) she can be his toy or 2) she can be his treasure. You've all seen a little boy play with a truck. He pushes it this way and that, then, when he gets tired of it, he throws it away and grabs another toy. It is very hard on girls when boys get tired of them and throw them away. It is very wrong for a man to toy with a woman. It is equally wrong for women to do it to men.

Unfortunately, many men seem to feel that it is perfectly OK to play with a woman and throw her away. Enough women permit this that they can keep doing it for a long time.

If you’re looking for a toy, any of the questions in the other answers are OK. However, if you’re thinking for the long term and hope to met a woman with whom to share your life, you could tilt toward a longer-term question as in, “What would you like to be doing 10 years from now.”

From a long-term-thinking woman's point of view, the most important characteristic of a man is that he be nuts about her, and nobody can make that happen, not even you.

If she’s got any sense, she knows that the time will come when she's got the flu, she's pregnant out to HERE, the other kids are leaking at both ends, the house is hip-deep in diapers, and she's too sick to do anything about it at all. If he's really smitten with her, he'll stick around and help her through it instead of running off.

Women can also sense whether a man’s attracted to them or not. If you’re attracted such that she knows it, you ask a long-term question, and she’d like to be wanted by a guy, you have an opening.

I don't know if our story will be relevant to you. We talked for an hour or two the day we met, then I told her I was going to date her, details here:

What My Wife Told Me Before We Were Married

When I did that, the wheels turned behind her eyes for a few seconds, she gulped, and said, "Yes." As a woman, she was more interested in being wanted than in wanting. She knew that the time would come when she'd have the flu, she'd be pregnant out to HERE, the other kids would be leaking at both ends, the house would be hip-deep in diapers, and she'd be too sick to do anything about it. If I was really smitten with her, I'd stick around and help her through it instead of running off.

She acknowledged my claim on her, but she laid out a few terms and conditions which are described above, specifically that I acknowledge that she was a treasure and not a toy, using those exact words. She also told me enough about herself that I knew I could make her happy. What she said about her needs seems to apply to most women so it would help you.

We've been married since 1971. It worked because I wanted her strongly enough to meet her terms and conditions, she wanted to be wanted, and because she really did want to be a treasure for her husband.

The important point was that she knew enough about men to demand that I treat her as a treasure from the beginning. She tells young ladies to do that. If they guy walks away from a women who declares that she intends to be God's treasure for her husband, letting herself fall in love with him would be a BAD idea.

There's an old saying about romance, "It don't mean a thing if it ain't got that ZING!" The zing is the man's desire for one specific woman. If it isn't there, there's no way to make it happen.

Regardless of attraction, if you base a marriage on duty well done, love generally follows.