coolcatcamorra:

Yesterday while romancing ourselves/each other for Valentine’s Day, Alecia said when she was in middle school she had this idea that she’d be married by now. She thought she would be married by the age of 23, and here she is still unmarried and about to turn 27. She admitted she had some anxiety about it, because she envisioned this long, The Notebook-esque romance. The ‘we’ve been married for over 50 years’ type romance, and the longer she remains unmarried the less likely that will happen for her.

But then she said, “I realized I have that with you.”

We’ve been best friends since we were 12, and now we’re 26, and when we’re 62 and still best friends we will be able to say we’ve had this amazing 50-year-long romance and that it’s still going strong.

This kind of love is just as valuable as romantic love. Our relationship is purely platonic and we romance each other all the time! We wax poetic about how meaningful our friendship is and check in often to make sure the other feels loved and appreciated and validated. Our friendship is such a stabilizing force in our lives, and we’re really fortunate to know that no matter what, we’re here for each other on equal terms of unconditional love.

So I just want to put it out there for anyone getting antsy about not being married: your longest, most fulfilling relationships don’t have to be with a romantic partner. Sometimes it’s your best friend from middle school, or your sister, or someone else! If you’re fortunate enough to feel a close kinship with someone - and it doesn’t have to be with someone you’ve known for 15 years, maybe you’ve known each other only a few months - if you’re fortunate enough to feel close to someone else, let love flourish between you! Platonic love will make you feel just as fulfilled and happy in the end, I promise!