HerImagined Forum Member



Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: USA Posts: 32

How do I politely but sternly not invite my mother to my wedding? I'm 21 and getting married in May. We're going to the courthouse and then coming home for a small celebration so both families can get to know each other. HOWEVER, neither my mother nor her black fiance are welcome for some obvious reasons and other not so obvious reasons. I have not had anything to do with her since I was a child and she abandoned me on my grandparent's doorstep. Today I'm thankful she did it because they made the woman I am today, but still. Ouch. Anyway, she recently brought home a poor excuse for even a black man. 51 without a penny to his name, a proud gangbanger and drug dealer who feels like dealing drugs, "gang banging", and things like that makes him a good person, a supposed "Muslim", just an all around terrible human. There is a huge list of other reasons including telling my grandmother lies about me and tagging my grandmother and me in videos about people getting shot and children hanging from trees before I stopped being civil and blocked him, but let's not get into that.

He knows just as well as my mother knows they aren't welcome in my house, however, I know how they are and they'll still find an excuse to show up.



I don't know how to make it explicitly clear to them not to show up. I won't let them ruin my wedding day. I'm also sorry this turned into kind of a rant, but I needed to get all that out... Thank you in advance for any advice on how to deal with this..