ShuttyTown Wed 04-Oct-17 19:07:47

I’ve been friends with A for about 3 years, met at a playgroup for our DS’s who were both 2 at the time. We quickly became good friends, and our DH’s got on too so we did holidays, nights out, takeaway nights, Sunday lunches etc together.



A has lots of other friends however (but not as close as I was in terms of spending time together as a 4) that she would see for days out with their kids and play dates etc and I only have one other friend really so sometimes I felt a bit resentful if she was out with her other friends and she never invited me to be part of that.



Anyway cut to half term in February I never heard from her and saw on Facebook she’d done activities each day with her other friends and their children, I was upset but never said anything. Then come the Easter holidays same again, she was busy every day doing days out with her other friends and I didn’t see her for the full two weeks. (Normally we would do days out/playdates for our DS’s in every holiday). I was pissed off after this and I stopped messaging her and she never messaged me either however would still ‘like’ my photos on FB etc. Then the nail in the coffin was she posted a photo of her DS at a football class that we had originally taken our DS’s together, and decided not go back when they didn’t show much interest in it. When I saw she’d taken him back without even asking if we wanted to give it another try I was upset and angry and I removed her off Facebook as I took it as a hint that she was done with me. I left it a few days and didn’t hear from her and then when I checked she had actually blocked me on Facebook.



I have left it weeks now but I do miss her, she was a good friend and we had been there for each other through some hard times, so despite my better judgement I bit the bullet and wrote to her, just a short note saying I was sorry for removing her off FB, I missed her, my DS misses her DS and I’d love to chat and sort things out. She would have received the letter on Monday, I still haven’t heard from her.



WWYD? My DH is telling me to leave it, she obviously doesn’t want to sort things out but I want to go round to her house and face her and ask her why things ended up like this.



Thank you if you’re still with me, that was very long!



I also realise how sad and desperate I sound once it’s all written down but I just feel so sad about losing someone who was such a good friend. Thanks for any advice!