So your gf says she wants to live with you? She wants to get closer? Spend more time together? Don’t buy it. In this essay I will reveal proof how it’s a blatant lie.

Women telling their men they want to be closer: Tie the knot: Live together: Marry. Anything to be with you more right? That’s the promise. They like you and want you around more. Right? What if I proved to you that this was false. Patently false. And after seeing it you’ll never be the same?

If you don’t want to change anything in your life I recommend you stop reading now. This is the point of no return.

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To prove my hypothesis, lets look at common situations that we all are aware of.

What is living together?

So your woman says she wants to live together. And she might even be honestly expressing her true inner feelings. But does that mean it’s true? Let’s look a little deeper.

Two people want to live together. Be together. OK, simple. Got it.

Actually while you’re still in college it makes the most sense because both of you don’t have all that much to do. And you’re 18. At 18, fucking is the main event. So in a way, I lied. Living together could work at this age. For awhile…

But all good things must end. And in the end, you graduate and get jobs. Young people work long hours and see each other rarely in real life. How many minutes a day? I’ll leave that to the bean counters but it doesn’t take a genius to realize that it isn’t very often. Or many minutes a day.

You both work. You both commute. You both take work home. You both do overtime. You wake up. If you’re like me at 23, you wake up at the last possible moment and rush like a madman to work. When I was 23, I had a regime of going to the refrigerator and where I had 4 types of pickled herring lined up.

Mustard, mayonnaise, vinegar and spicy. I’d open each on in turn. Swallow a fish from each in two seconds and grab a strong coffee. Then I would run out the door. I wouldn’t even bother waking my angel.

Wouldn’t meet her till lunch. I’d run over from where I worked to have lunch with her. That was nice but looking back it was frickin short. Sometimes she’d blow me. Sometimes not. Either way, I’d eat and run back to work.

I worked extremely hard in the afternoon until late evening. Then I’d go back home. Say hi to the old lady and jump in the sauna and relax. After a nice long refresh, I’d put a towel on and come to dinner. Luckily my gf at the time was a chef and knew that my favorite hobby besides slapping the ham was eating so she would line up tons of food.

I’d plow down the food and do a quick walk in the forest with her. That was the one quality time I’d spend with her. And looking back, it was quite nice actually. But it too was not that long. Maybe 45 minutes?

So breakfast was zero time together. Lunch was maybe 15 minutes. Dinner, after sauna, was 20 minutes and the walk was 45 minutes. Then a quick fuck and sleep. So maybe 1:45 a day. And this was a girl who was crazy in love with me. A precarious and limited time indeed. All good right?

Not really. I assumed that we were spending a bit of time together but if we got married it would be more. And that she wanted more. But let’s examine what happens next.

Marriage means work and saving. Work and saving means little time together. Again. And then pregnancy and less time to be together. We all know what happens next. Responsibilities and real life. Fast forward to later in life. You are working your ass off. You get weekends off. Your wife tells you that you work too hard. You should be home more. You apologize or maybe mansplain that you are doing this for her and the family.

But in your heart you believe, every man believes, that she wants you home more. It’s just not possible at the moment. And then she gets pregnant again. Whoops. Strange how she got pregnant when the other kids were ten or so. So the last kid would go to uni at about the time you planned on retiring.

So you do it. You man up and barrel through a lifetime of work and competition at the office. You come out a winner with a nice retirement, IRA, house paid off, great insurance for the family. You are a winner. And now it’s time to be with the wife. Right? That’s what she always said she wanted right?

You have this sinking feeling but aren’t sure what’s nagging you. You feel this unusual fear when you get that proverbial watch from the boss for retirement. Being at home with the wife, all day, is what she wants right? But you remember that you spend most of your time in the basement, garage or man cave.

Your home is not really your home and you know it. She might even joke about it. But you dismiss all that and think. “I paid for all this stuff and when I retire, the home will be half mine and half hers. I can go to any room and hang out as long as I like…. right?

Allow me to introduce you to a Japanese term. “Sodaigomi” – it means large garbage. When you throw out a sofa or refrigerator, you have to call the big garbage people to come and pick it up as it can’t go in the usual trash.

Guess what Japanese housewives call their retired husbands? You got it. Big garbage. They say it openly. And all over the world women think it and talk privately with their friends. “He needs a hobby” “He’s driving me crazy being around all day” “Can’t he get a job as Walmart greeter?”

These ideas all have one thing in common. And in common with the rest of your life. It means you leave and she stays home.

I have bad news to tell you. Marriage is just a huge scam tricking you into thinking she wants to spend all day with you. It’s designed to fool you till the very end. When it’s really too late for most guys to make major changes. And too expensive.

Nope, ask women. They don’t want to spend all day with you. And never did. You are not wanted unless you pay for everything and stay out of the house all day. You will be tolerated if you work a full time job and leave early in the morning and come home in the evening and pay the bills.

It’s not ideal for her. It would be better if you were away at a factory for the week and only came home on weekends. Most women would prefer that. Ask them.

Would you work so hard if you knew that you weren’t welcome at home? Would you bubble with joy after work and on weekends if you knew you were staying away in order to keep the ruse up?

I think the reason guys never figure this out is because guys only are home all day when they get laid off. When guys are out of work they feel terrible and are not surprised that their girlfriend or wife is not happy. So they don’t think any deeper about it. But what if she was unhappy simply because you were there all day? And not because you aren’t earning.

The main problem is that you are at home.

This all became crystal clear to me when a good friend of mine sold his company in his early 40’s. He was ecstatic. He sold out to the tune of millions of dollars. Had 3 kids and a lovely wife who always said ‘he worked too hard’ ‘should come home earlier’ ‘needs to take a break’ etcetera.

But what happened when he came home for good? In his own words, it was the worst year of his life. But he couldn’t put his finger on why. Of course, he had to deal with greedy acquaintances and family who knew he cashed out. So that sucked. And he wasn’t ready for that. But the biggest surprise was that, even though he made enough money for the family to retire in glory, his wife seemed angry that he wasn’t doing anything. Except be a good father and take care of the house and cars and taxes and his remaining responsibilities as a board of directors for the mandatory 2 year period after selling out.

His wife was unhappy he was home. Surely he did something wrong, right? He must have. He must have committed some grave error for his wife to suddenly be nagging him like mad to get out of the house and do something.

Surely it wasn’t because he was neglecting the kids. He was spending insane amounts of time taking his young kids around. Playing. Having picnics. Reading them to sleep. Doing everything a good dad does. His Facebook was suddenly filled with dad pics. Happy dad pics.

But unhappy husband pics. He finally realized it was all a scam. She didn’t want him around the house and never had. Simple as that. It’s her house. He’s only welcome for an hour in the morning and couple hours at night. Even though he brought home the bacon in a major way. He was a winner in almost every aspect of life.

He was handsome. He was young. He was rich. He had 3 healthy kids and a ‘nice wife”. But when it was all over, he realized it was a trick. Maybe she didn’t plan it that way. Maybe she honestly thought she wanted him home. But I doubt it.

Women are extremely realistic. They see the truth easier than men. Women reading this now know that this is true across cultures and though time. A good husband is one that leaves in the morning. Has limited time in the house and pays the bills.

I was going to ramble on about my ideas of what to do next but I’ll leave it to you. What will you do if you knew that you simply cannot make a woman want you around the house. It’s simply not possible. Even if you win in life but especially if you are normal or below average.

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