Pamper your senses Sensual loving begins with indulging and lavishing attention on your body. When women feel stressed, tired or run-down, they often lose the desire for sex. Take time to give your body a treat; indulge yourself and awaken your five senses of smell, sound, sight, touch and taste. Self-pampering gives our senses a kick-start.

Book yourself a quiet night in; turn off your mobile, dim the lights and let yourself relax. Try having a long, hot bath with scented candles and sensual oils, whilst playing relaxing and uplifting music. This will unlock your potential for relaxed, alert physical pleasure.

Indulge in fantasies

Some people worry about their sexual fantasies, but really there’s no need. Your fantasies are a healthy expression of your inner life. Don’t worry if you wouldn’t consider doing them in real life; this isn’t ‘real life,’ so you can let yourself go. Your fantasies might be romantic scenarios or be just downright depraved.

You might also want to share your fantasies with your partner – or play out a few. Even if you don’t want to make your fantasies a reality, talking about them with your partner can take you both to a new level of intimacy.

Embrace emotional intimacy

Communication is the key to great sex. There might be things we feel we can’t say for fear of being hurt, especially if we’ve had a bad experience or been let down in the past. However, if you can’t communicate properly with a partner, you can become distant from one another – and that distance will affect your love-making.