Back in June 2016 I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years and 4 months. Come August I was trying to get back into the dating game and downloaded a number of dating apps. I wasn't looking for another relationship, just for some casual sex, and I told that to every girl I've ever met. So one weekend I download Bumble, and get matched with this cute Asian girl. We get to sexting pretty quick and she soon sends me a nude. I've never been sent a nude before by a complete stranger so I'm pretty excited. She asks for one back, but I just happened to be in a car with my friends going up for a cottage weekend. I tell her I'll be without signal for the weekend and we'll pick this back up when I come back.

The weekend finishes and I ask when's a good time to meet up (a little backstory, I live in Toronto). She tells me she has to move back to Vancouver because her mom is sick with cancer, and that she'll be back in a month. Okay sure. We continue to talk. All the while I extensively try to find her on some form of social media (Facebook/Twitter/Snapchat/LinkedIn) but can't find anything. She says she broke up with her ex and he made it hell for her so she has no social media presence. Uhm, OK.

She tries to get me to add her on kik. I've never used kik but know its a platform many ppl use to either scam or sext or catfish. I told her I wasn't interested in downloading it just to talk to one person, so she adds me on WhatsApp and we continue to talk there. She continues to send me nudes and gets me to send them back. I have never once sent a nude in my life to my ex girlfriends or friends with benefits. It's just something I've never felt comfortable to do. She gets frustrated but understands and continues to send me nudes and videos. All the while, at the back of my head, I'm trying to discern if this girl is real or not. I mean multiple reasons.

Never met her in person When the opportunity arose, she moved across the country No social media presence I've asked if she could one day say my name in a video she made, but she got all defensive saying "what you don't trust me after everything I've sent you and you haven't sent me anything?" and then we'd argue

Just a few things that made me suspicious.

Fast forward to today, it is now March. Back in August she said she would be back in September but has said she is staying in Vancouver indefinitely because of her mother's declining health. It has been roughly 8-9 months of us chatting and sexting and going back. The most I ever sent her was me in my underwear or my bulge through my underwear. I made sure to not show my face in any explicit photos I sent her. I did send her selfies but I was always clothed. Earlier this week I asked if she was interested in having a video chat with me. She declined because she was out at a party. A few days later, we start sexting and I finally cave of me sending a video of me stroking my genitals (Don't worry my face isn't in it). She's finally happy I sent her something, and I ask her if she can finally send me a video of her saying my name. She makes up some excuse that while she was in the bathroom making the video, her brother knocks on the door, scares her, she drops her phone, and breaks the screen. Again, feels likes she feeding me more bullshit. I express my frustrations and concerns, and the conversation ends like this:

Her: "I think we should take some time without talking"

Me: "You're not getting out of another video chat. You still yet to send any video or anything saying my name. I mean provided. I think you at least should.

Her: I need to go, I'm sorry.

Me: So...further fuelling my suspicions...

Her: Then block me!

Me: Why can't you even provide proof you're real!? You keep dodging it. You're making me feel insecure about myself now. That I was talking to someone else this whole time

Her: I'm sorry. I'm going through a lot right now. And I used you as my escape. With my mom and my ex back in the picture I wanted to tell you that I wanted to have one last sexting session. Not once did I think you'd actually send me anything. I'm sorry, you're an amazing guy, and I hope you find the right girl. You weren't talking to anyone else. Just some damaged girl. I'm sorry.

Me: So you won't send me a video to give me some peace of mind?

Her: I can't

Me: You don't even have to be naked or anything

Her: We are done

Me: Seriously?

Her: Thank-you for your friendship

Me: You have no idea how self conscious you're making me feel right now. You owe me that much.

She soon blocked me after that, having no way of contacting her.

That being said...I don't know how I should feel. I want closure on this girl because I don't want to feel like I've been talking to someone else this entire time. I have no emotional attachment to her, nor do I think the few videos and risque photo's I sent her will ever get back to me because I have no distinguishing tattoos or piercings, nor did I show my face in any of them.

I come here asking if there are any measures I can take to getting some kind of closure with this. I feel so violated that the first nudes I ever sent could have been to someone who was pretending to be someone else. Any advice? All I have is her phone number and photos where I tried to reverse image, but came up with 0 results. What say you Reddit?

TL;DR. Matched with a girl from Bumble in August last year. Been sexting back and forth. She sends me a lot of nudes and videos, I don't send her any, until tonight. When I ask for confirmation of her identity, she comes up with a bunch of excuses and deletes me. How should I feel? How can I get my closure? Was I being catfished?