I am fairly new to Red Pill theory, and honestly I wish that I had found it years ago. It's tough to admit, but I am a classic case of being "alpha widowed." All through my early/mid 20s I thought my SMV/RMV were much higher than they actually were because I didn't understand the difference in dynamics of men and women. Furthermore, even though I would consider myself a girl's girl (I bond with women/make friends easily), I still feel as though my personality is too masculine. I curse like a sailor. I am not afraid of confrontation and will call someone out if I feel the need. When talking with men (casually), they will often comment on how direct and forward I am. I am sure there is more, but those are the examples that stand out. I've had many guy friends in the past, and I thought it was GOOD to be "one of the guys", but those friendships all fizzled as either they would have feelings for me (but I was uninterested) or vice versa.

Honestly, I feel resentful. Everyone tells you growing up "It's what's on the inside that counts" and "The right man will come along when you least expect it." and it's just simply not true. This sub has been eye-opening and honestly, I am appreciative to understand my own shortcomings and how I've put myself in my current position.

And so with that, I would like to talk about moving forward. I recently relocated to a new city (Boston) and have the opportunity to start fresh with these RPW ideals in mind. I am already actively working on increasing my SMV to the best of my ability, but what about RMV? All I have found about RMV is to have a feminine frame of mind (be supportive, kind, agreeable, etc.) and feminine hobbies. Is that really all there is to RMV - it almost seems too easy?

Additionally, I have already started making new friends here, which is great - but they do seem to be in the same position I was when I found this sub (masculine personality traits, etc.) How important are your friends when considering RPW ideologies?

And finally, in terms of finding high-quality men to date, what are the most tried-and-true avenues? I am almost never approached by men when I go out. And the men who ARE interested in me, I do not find sexually attractive whatsoever. Sure, I pass men on the street every day, but almost none of them are men I would actually want to date. I've joined Bumble, Tinder, Match.com, etc. but the endless swiping (and unanswered messages) are completely discouraging.

I know this was a lot, but I guess I am just feeling a little lost right now in putting these theories to practice. Any words of wisdom, or stories from people who have had a similar experience, would be immensely welcome. Thank you for reading!