So I have known for a while that I identify with being asexual. However asexuality has a very large grey scale. I found the following information to be extremely helpful in zoning in on my specific sexual and romantic identities which consist of being demiromantic and semisexual:

Attraction type 1: attraction to outwardly apparent characteristics- physical form, apparent wealth or race or social status or gender/sex, etc.

Attraction type 2: attraction to characteristics that can only be learnt after you know the person well- kindness, trustworthiness, loyalty, intelligence, their own personal orientations and identities, etc.

Lacking Attraction 1 but having Attraction 2 = demi.

If it’s the sexual version of Att.1 that you lack, then demisexual.

If it’s the romantic version of Att.1 that you lack, then demiromantic.

Then there are the drives/desires/libidos:

Drive 1: The urge to have sex or to start a romantic relationship, because you will take pleasure from it personally.

Drive 2: The urge to have sex or to start a romantic relationship, because of things other than your direct pleasure - another person’s pleasure, or making money, or making/raising a child, or benefiting socially from being in a relationship, etc.

Lacking Drive 1 but having Drive 2 = Semi.

If it’s the sexual version of Drive 1 you lack, then semisexual.

If it’s the romantic version of Drive 2 you lack, then semiromantic.