I was forwarded this fun screenshot from what I assume is someone’s Instagram, which looks like a screenshot from someone else’s Facebook or something.

Feminists, if you want to know why there is such a disdain for your movement, we can start with far cry viewpoints such as this. Holding a door open is not a dictation of “you may enter or leave, but only on my say so” - holding a door shut is. And the last time I checked, you don’t regularly run into men into public places holding the door shut when they see you approaching.

This sort of overanalyzing is what social justice extremists would call problematic. The “creepy smile” you see is the facial expression of being happy to do something, even minor, to help someone else. Yes, they are doing something good, as it’s not neutral, and it’s not bad. The only bad you can take from this sort of action is by molding the intention based on zero evidence of bad intentions dictated by your own undeserved sexist outrage. Despite this inane gripe, I hardly doubt that she ultimately told him herself “stop trying to control where women can and cannot go in life” much less getting close to any point of spitting on him.



Coming from a person who 96% of the time holds the door open for everyone, no matter whether they are a woman or a man, this sort of rhetorical narrative of the evil patriarchal man, trying to manipulate and control women through their endless endeavors of holding doors open is very disturbing. I’m not going to stop being a polite person just because a few pieces of shit are going to have an unnecessary problem with it, and neither should anyone else. Even if the intention is ingenuine, who fucking cares? You’ll probably never see that person ever again for the rest of your life. But perhaps that’s the entire intention of delivering that vocal outrage, is because it’s something easy to complain about, and never have to face much criticism; because most men probably won’t say anything otherwise, because there’s a nature of chivalry at play sometimes, which women have long complained doesn’t exist anymore.

Furthermore, these people need to get over themselves. Not every situation you run into is an instance of an alpha male trying to get into YOUR pants or control YOUR life. Sometimes people are just trying to be nice to each other.

As a person that you likely assume is a man, let me tell you what I, and most all men, and most everyone period is saying when they do this: “Oh hey, I’m already in the process of opening the door and see you coming towards or behind me, so rather than be rude and let the door hit your face, I’m going to wait a couple extra seconds to be helpful and hold it open, because more people should be selfless in times they have an opportunity to do so, even if it’s as minor as holding a door open!”

I don’t know what’s more disgusting, though; the supposed necessity of typing out this idiotic rant of patriarchy-smashing, or the fact that over 11,000 people agreed with it.