What’s Wrong With Yandere - A PSA

Hey!!! It’s Claude! I know you haven’t heard from me in a while (wow), but I am here to talk about something not cool in the dangan ronpa oc community. And all other communities? And in general.

The yandere trope.

More under the cut on why it’s actually super ableist?

First of all: the word itself.

The term is a portmanteau from the words yanderu (病んでる?) meaning a mental or emotional illness, and deredere (でれでれ?) meaning to show genuinely strong romantic affection.

That’s from wikipedia. (Scroll down to Y and see the definition of YANDERE)

So that’s a great start, portraying a mentally ill person as VIOLENT or someone who would exhibit abusive behaviors like someone falling under the “yandere trope” does.

Second: the illness usually associated with it is usually not like that at all?

I was diagnosed this year by my therapist with erotomania. Erotomania is a delusional disorder in which an individual deludes themselves into thinking that someone is in love with them.

Sounds familiar, right? A “yandere” usually deludes themselves into thinking someone is in love with them.

But it’s very extreme. It gives the stigma that ALL people with erotomania are stalkers/killers/would kill/are abusive towards s/o/cannot be in a stable relationship.

Stalking is very bad, murder is very bad. All the abusive behaviors “yanderes” exhibit are not great.

You know what else is not great? Generalizing based on someone’s neurodivergencies.

I’m not very eloquent right now because I’m a bit angry, but please feel free to message me for more information on why it’s bad!

IMPORTANT NOTICE:

if you have a “yandere” chara…….thats fine, i guess. im not telling you to change your chara. i have two charas with erotomania….

but you should know that your “yandere” chara IS neuroatypical and if you don’t have those illnesses, you should research them to portray them properly!!

thank you for reading, have a nice day!!