Find your stroke

Use your hand to find a rhythm you love. Finding your rhythm when you masturbate takes time and practice. Some people enjoy rapid strokes, some enjoy slower strokes, and others like a variety. There is no limit to the ways you can use you hand to explore your penis.

When in doubt, stay consistent until you reach orgasm. Masturbation is not a one-size-fits-all thing and is something you can practice regularly. You may find that a stroke you liked at one point makes way for something else in the future. That’s totally normal.

Masturbation doesn’t need to be this super fast, shameful thing you do in the dark corner of your bedroom.

Take your time

Regardless of what you’ve seen on popular television shows and in movies, masturbation doesn’t need to be this super fast, shameful thing you do in the dark corner of your bedroom. It doesn’t need to be a race to finish if you don’t want it to be.

Sure, locking the door adds privacy, but what you’re doing isn’t shameful or bad. Set some time to actually enjoy masturbating. Don’t rush it. Listen to your body and see what feels good for you. Do you prefer stimulation at the head of the penis? The base?

Every body is different and every person enjoys different things. If you learn what you like, you will be more fully equipped for interpersonal sexual experiences down the road.

Lube is your best friend

The friction of your hand directly on your penis for a prolonged period of time is not particularly good for you. Not to alarm you, but it can cause some minor desensitization in the penis. It can also leave some “rug burn.” Lube is important for all sex acts, from masturbation to intercourse.

I know lotion is a popular masturbation option, but lotion is not lube. It’s easy to find around the house and is convenient, but it isn’t ideal for masturbation. Your penis is a sensitive area. Some scented lotions may actually cause irritation (which is not fun).

Always opt for lube. If you have access to or are able to buy lube, go for a water-based, unscented option. Anything with “warming” components of flavoring may also cause itching or irritation.

In some cases, getting your hands on lube may be difficult. If this is the case, there are some household options that can work. You can use 100% coconut oil or 100% aloe vera as lube (this does not include sunburn lotion with aloe vera or varieties like it). Make sure what you’re using is 100% pure.

Give your balls some love

You may want to explore your body even more, and that is fantastic. Don’t ignore your balls. They are a very sensitive area, packed with nerve endings.